his birthday is tomorrow..should i send him a text saying happy birthday..i know he did a horrible thing but its 7 years of my life that i loved him..
2007-03-11 15:00:08 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should send him a text telling him just plain Happy birthday, nothing else. If you guys are on "good terms"... which I've been there done that (not in a 7 year relationship, it was 2 years, but still) I'd send the message. If I were in your shoes and able to even talk to my ex, then I would send it. He's married with a child now and totally screwed me over, but since he was a big part of my life and was there for me for that much time, I want to be able to be friends. Some people ask why but its just one of those "things" I guess. Anyway, I think the text shows that you are a bigger person and you are able to be friends with him. I think plainly put, Happy Birthday, just like a friend would, is the right thing.
Just don't delve into... I miss you, how are things... and so on and probably not good to call, because then you get big converstation and awkward silence. Especially since he's dating a new girl, she may get all jealous on your ***.
What I'm getting at is, you probably want him to see that you are "over him" yet since he and the relationship itself WERE a big part of your life you don't just to throw them both away... But it really is your call, I say do it... :)
2007-03-11 15:12:09 · answer #1 · answered by Charlotte 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
nicely me and my ex didnt have lots of an courting the two however the 1st time he met my superb pal on the honest she grew to become into throughout him. Then some weeks later he broke up with me and went out along with her.because of the fact our acquaintances didnt want us jointly. I moved away and had a baby with my new better half and then we broke up by way of dv after having our daughter. Then i found out my superb married him and invited me to the marriage. i understand he cares for me nevertheless reason he continually ask my mum how im doing and the place i'm. i understand there is something is there nevertheless and so does he yet he keeps denying it. So i say this make a propersition for him ask him out for lunch the two deliver the gf or no longer.as much as him... tell him right this moment out what you opt to ensue and which you nevertheless sense for him. which you adult males could provide yet another shot or stay as acquaintances as puzzling as this is BF in basic terms dont ask him while she is with him that is going to reason a arguement and then it particularly is going to be annoying from then onwards
2016-09-30 13:15:41 · answer #2 · answered by lieser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing but mine lasted 5 years. You should just leave him alone. He will use you if he thinks that you will let him. It will start off with texts, then phone calls, then lunch dates, then casual sex. it will just all be the same thing and you will keep getting hurt. If you can get away then you should. Good Luck.
2007-03-11 15:03:58 · answer #3 · answered by sweethonesty1699 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your "X" boyfriend..........move on! There's a whole world out there and let the past stay in the past. My goodness seven years of your life with one person, just be glad you found out he cheated on you, believe me if he did it once he did it several times, you just don't know about it and he'll never fess up to it. You're young, so enjoy life to the fullest. Travel, meet new and fascinating people. Do for your yourself, get to know "YOU".
2007-03-11 15:08:54 · answer #4 · answered by pattycakes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should send him a birthday greeting. But, do not expect any results from it. He is taken. You need to move on with your life. Remember, today is the first day of the rest of your life.
Take care.
2007-03-11 15:04:48 · answer #5 · answered by Ti 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That you loved him or still love him. I guess it's cool if the two of you are still cool with each other but if you are the only one that still has feelings then I would say no. Besides he cheated on you and left you remember it's not being mean but would he call you if it were your birthday?
2007-03-11 15:06:40 · answer #6 · answered by ltwatkins77 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let him enjoy his birthday with his new love.
You don't have to hate him but you don't want to still be involved even just to wish him a happy birthday.
2007-03-11 15:04:11 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously still has feelings for him, which is understandable considering the seven years you spent together BUT dont let yourself get thrown into a situation where you can get hurt again!
2007-03-11 15:03:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
a bunch of internet adicts are not suitable for answering a personal question like this. but if you were my friend i would tell you not to send him anything. he violated and terminated those 7 years of love when he cheated. he does not deserve your friendship.
2007-03-11 15:04:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats right he is history now. He cheated on you. I wouln't even think of sending him a text. Get with it, and move on.
2007-03-11 15:08:41 · answer #10 · answered by ziggie44134 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋