Have you ever met a person like this?

Question

There is a lady who I run into from time to time because we have mutual friends. She is really beautiful, fit, great kids and nice husband.

She is also really rude. It is almost like she goes out of her way to be condescending. I avoid her as much as possible but I had a 2 minute interaction with her and walked away feeling terrible. I do not really know how to describe it.

Have you ever met a person like this? Why would a person with so much going for them feel the need to act this way? I do not get it.

Answer 1

Because my dear, they do not have that much going for them.
She is a snob. The world is lousy with them. They believe that their income and social bracket is higher than yours and that they have earned the right to treat other people, including you, like dirt on their shoes. The next time you see her coming toward you. You have two options, deliberately side step her and leave her wondering whats going on, or walk right up to her and when she starts with the condescending remarks, stop her and tell her exactly how much she offends you with her diatribe and that unless she can offer something kind and interesting to the conversation, she should hold the thought, as you have more important things to do. OR you can continue to allow this woman to make you suffer. Your call. Because it is we who allow others to make us feel bad. Not the other way around.

Answer 2

There are two answers as far as why she behaves that way.

1. Perhaps things are not what they appear on the outside. Her kids could be brats at home, her husband could be cheating on her, she can't make rent, etc.
2. She may not have always looked like she does now. She may have been overweight, not had boyfriends, etc. and developed defense mechanisms to cope. Or, she always looked the way she looks, but could only make herself feel good by putting others down.

I've known people like this in my time, and the best way to deal with them is to "kill them with kindness." Don't ever let her see that she is getting to you. Tell her to have a wonderful day, smile, and walk away knowing that you are the nicer person.

Answer 3

Some people might appear to possess everything, beauty, husband, great kids, etc. However, they might be miserable creatures inside. She might not have as much going for her as you might think, because she is not at peace with herself. Such people cannot feel good unless they lash out at other people and hurt them. Your stunned, wounded face probably gave her so much pleasure. She will continue get away with rude behavior if you allow her. The next time she is rude to you, calmly point out to her that her behavior is despicable and that you'd prefer not to be around her while she is so inconsiderate and crass. Don't let her see that she ruffled your feathers. Stay in control and avoid her like the plague.

Answer 4

I've known people like this. The best thing to do is point out each individual rudeness. If she says something condescending, simply say. "Sorry, don't feel like being talked down to right now. Bye!" She might not know what she is doing, but if she treats everyone like this, which I strongly suspect she does, she'll find herself completely friendless and either change or self destruct.
Good luck to you! It sounds like you're learning a lot faster than I did!

Answer 5

Sometimes the people who're most beautiful and happy on the outside are the most insecure on the inside. They have all this glitter and glamour but they wouldn't know for a moment what to do without it. Those of us who don't look so good have a solid core, with some of the goodlooking folks it's all a big bubble... they're afraid someone will pop it :)

Answer 6

because no ones life is that perfect. before getting irritated with her, think about what may be going on below the surface. you never know what goes on behind closed doors. people usually act this way to make themselves feel better. her self esteem could be low or she could just be unsatisfied with her life and flat-out not a happy person. either way try to avoid that negative energy and for every negative she spews make sure u spit out something positive. killing people with kindness goes a long way. don't let her bring you down. good luck

Answer 7

because she doesnt feel positive about herself. maybe all her life she was made to feel low, so any success she has will never fill the hole in her heart. some people also abuse their status and power when they get it. they desperately want to be the princess, but secretly they are the peasant. they act accordingly. true royalty would never behave that way. she is just betraying who she is. truly, feel sorry for her. she had a bad life im sure. now look at her. she does it to everyone i am sure. take care.

Answer 8

unfortunately there's many people like this. you sorta answered your own question "why would a personwith so much going for them feel the need to act this way?" she probably feels like she's better than everyone else since she has everything she wants. don't act like you're bothered by her next time, or put her in her place. i generally believe that no one is better than another...but i make exceptions for people like that, i think they're pretty pathetic

Answer 9

Maybe deep down she's miserable. People tend to look like they've got a nice life going for them. But there not always as happy as they appear to be.

Answer 10

Yes, I have met people like that. Just take it for what it is worth NOTHING. If the person is not someone you value, as family or friend, then don't worry about what they have to say.