I find myself deeply disturbed by some answers here, what to do?

Question

I am a sensitive person. As I read some of the answers here, I find that there is a cruelty and contempt for others that really causes me pain. I enjoy most...but how can I not be hurt by the rude people here?

Please be kind.

Answer 1

Sometimes I answer and those answers are not so nice. I answer honestly in hopes that it will help a person. The truth hurts. And no one is immune.

Answer 2

Some times people ask questions which can be answered with what they see as a simple query on a search engine or a modest amount of reading within the topic area. It's harder for someone who is here for the challenge to respect something that seems below their abilities. They could just not answer them but in some peoples game any chance to get a shinny star is worth it however they let their selfish intent through too much in their answers. I know i'm missing out somethings here sorry if this too is biased :P :)

Answer 3

Someone on here mentioned that they think there are people who are in pain, and try to feel better by hurting others. Kind of like a bully, you think? That's why people bully others. It ticks me off when people do that, because a lot of times, the people asking the questions on here are in crisis, and too sensitive and vulnerable. But that's why you go to counseling and groups run by counselors, they can control the negative stuff and keep things positive.

If this forum is bothering you, you may want to avoid being on here too much. I really am disturbed by the nasty people on here too, but I feel good helping others, so it is worth it to me. It could be also that you are too sensitive because of depression, the illness itself certainly makes me more sensitive to negative things. (they hurt more). So then you have to do a cognitive thing, and realize that it is your depression making that worse and it's not that bad. I really think that's a possibility for you. I go to a social group for people with mental illness (all disabled from it) and we are all really thin-skinned.

Answer 4

You are probably surprised that others can be insensitive, and that level of uncaring doesn't meet your expectation. This will change over time, but it may not be very pleasant. You will learn to accept that some people who are in pain deal with that pain by trying to hurt others, as well. However, this does not really help them. It sets up a habit of saying negative things.

Over time you will no longer expect every answer to be positive. This will prevent you from feeling so much pain.

I encourage you, at the same time, to focus on the positive answers. For those answerers are trying to help, to share their successes, and to reduce the amount of suffering in the world. Only when you know the negative side can you be truly grateful for the positive side.

Peace.

Answer 5

I don't really know about your problem, but please don't listen to PhD P. I have bipolar disorder and there is absolutely nothing about what you described that could remotely give anyone a way to actually diagnose you and tell you what medication to take! What an idiot!

I would say you have an overdeveloped sense of feeling for others. I am like this too. This is, in general, a good thing. Try to find ways of eloquently and persuasively expressing your opinions about the cruel questions and answers. This might help. Remember that the anonymity of this site creates smugness and downright nastiness in people who are so inclined. Good luck!

Answer 6

I'm a pretty compassionate person so please don't think I'm being mean but if you go through life demanding that people behave to your liking, you'll be wasting perhaps years of your life dwelling on people's unmindfulness'. Don't let your emotions and well-being be at the mercy of your environment. You need to control certain emotions or they'll certainly control you, your appetite, your sleep, your happiness. You'll just be another blamer of your character on misfortunes. There will always be creeps and evil but there are a heck of a lot more decent people in the world than them. I think they are just scared that if they show compassion that they'll come across as weak.

Answer 7

Everyday I watch the news and everyday something new causes me pain. I can either turn off the T.V or listen up because I might be able to help somewhere. Your kinder approach input is needed, it's a strength in itself, so don't deny, fight back and help out!!

Making a difference in someones day is happinesss.

Don't forget too that sometimes the truth hurts but accepting it will leading to permanent growth and happines.

Answer 8

It is a wonderful but bittersweet thing to be sensitive, the world can be so beautiful yet so cruel. To feel is to have compassion & know you are alive. Be strong rise above the negative nasties, dont look or read just ignore it.
You have a really great week! kindest regards river.

Answer 9

Dont listen to PhD. P, he's probably crazy. Oh and maybe a troll.

If you are disturbed you may want to avoid coming here when you feel anxious. Come in when you are relaxed and at your most reasonable state of mind. Good luck.

Answer 10

You can't take everything so seriously. Some people on here just like to be funny and give stupid responses. Some are really rude cause they have'nt eaten their wheaties yet. Don't let it get to you.
Have a Good Day!

Answer 11

Sticks & stones can break your bones but words can NEVER hurt ya. The whole world is full of A holes. Don't let em get you down. Have some fun already!