He is very clingy. Doesn't speak yet (going to start speech therapy next month). Has 8 mo old sister that he isn't interested in quite yet because shes still little yet will pay attention to her if she grabs one of his toys, lol. Is always under my feet. I play with him all day practically but can't get anything done. There is no Moms Day Out programs available where we live. Pushes me away from counter if I try to make dinner. Sits on daddy's lap when he comes home but gets up continuously to see where I am at. Daddy's plays with him, I play with him, he just wants to be held constantly. I've tried finding kids his age to play with but am having no luck. I try teaching him new things but hes not interested. Hes happy to just sit on our lap and play with our hands. He will get down for maybe 2 minutes but the minute we move to do anything, he practically attacks us and clings to us. Like hes afraid we will leave him or something. He won't play with his toys for very long...
2007-03-11 14:36:45 · 8 answers · asked by Koozie 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
WILL NOT sleep in his bed no matter what we do. Even if I wait until he falls asleep and put him there, he wakes up shortly and screams and cries and comes and finds us. He is very clingy. I don't know what to do.
2007-03-11 14:39:41 · update #1
the sleeping problem will be very hard to break did you co-sleep with him as an infant? and try to show him fun things to do color,give him snacks and turn on cartoons you have to tell him mommy is busy i cant play ask him to draw you a picture maybe he will be fine doing something for you instead of being with you like i said drawing pictures or just play games show him objects and hide them then have him find them try letting him stay with a family member to give you some you time if all else fails
2007-03-11 14:47:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since it sounds like you're being very consistent with discipline, I agree with the first poster - it sounds like it's just a phase - something you'll look back on one day and laugh, although right now it's anything but funny. My niece is almost 3 and she went through a phase when she was 1.5 - 2.5 where she was just a NIGHTMARE. My sister tried everything - spanking, time outs, you name it, and nothing got through to her. Every day was a battle and my sister was so exhausted and emotional. All she could do was pick herself up the next day, take a deep breath, ask the Lord for help and do it all over again the next day. Then, one day, she was just over it. Now she's extremely well behaved and doesn't act up very often at all. I also agree that no matter how hard things get, you've gotta find a way to get control of your emotions. If mom is a screaming, crying, hysterical mess it's going to make his behavior a million times worse. He's going to feel like mom is unstable or unpredictable and might act out even more as a result. Do what you have to do to stay calm each time - take a minute or two by yourself to breathe deep before confronting the situation and pray for patience. Hang in there!
2016-03-29 00:48:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a nephew thats just like that and hes 3 now...his parents tried everything and the best thing they did was get him a dry erase board and lots of movies...he wouldnt sleep in his own bed until his dad bought him this cool race car bed..he became obsessed with spiderman and would watch the movie every day about 3 times a day....that was a life saver caus ethey could actually get bills paid and make dinner..
2007-03-11 14:45:58 · answer #3 · answered by evil_munchgin420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind and make some space between you both. We have gone through this ourselves with our 3yo and the best thing we did was started taking him to playgroup, but if there is no playgroup available try taking him to a park where there are other kids and encourage him to play with them. Its not easy at this stage of their life, but it is quite normal.
2007-03-11 14:47:03 · answer #4 · answered by rockonrobyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow I feel for you!!My daughter was like that the first couple of months but now she is getting more interested in toys. Do you have any pets? Maybe a puppy will get his attention Or maybe a bubble machine ,you just pour the bubbles in and it blows them out, That works great for my sister in law.
2007-03-11 14:46:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he still use a high chair- you could put him in the high chair (so he can see what you are doing), and watch you cook. You can give him a spoon and bowl to "help" you, or you can give him snacks.
As a last resort you could pop in a Sesame Street video, I have had to do this a few times when my husband and I are both cleaning/cooking.
2007-03-11 14:45:08 · answer #6 · answered by IDon'tWantToLiveOnTheMoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blocks, Duplo sized legos, little creatures for acting out things with, boxes to crawl into, sandbox...
modern society wants to define him as clingy or insecure, but he is actually very normal. by you meeting his needs now, he will be stronger when he is ready to be. don't meet his needs and he'll stay insecure and needy or he'll shut down and be angry. he's far too young to want interaction with peers - he can't use them.
it is exhausting to do it right . You have to give yourself pride and kudos for giving him what he needs.
You'll need to get your break when your husband comes home, and go take a shower or bath for the time you do need to recharge. It's hard to believe now, but one day you will see that this time just flew by.
2007-03-11 15:22:04 · answer #7 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
get some crayons and paper and sit him in his high chair in the kitchen while you do chores
or finger paint
play dough
restickable stickers
shape sorter
2007-03-11 15:18:28 · answer #8 · answered by Greeneyed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋