i'm not sleeping with him or doing anything else with this man we have in the past (last summer) i didn't know anything about this marriage back then and his friends that he knew for years and co-workers say that he had a divorce i don't even see him like that and when we do hang out we are with alot of friends my friend keeps telling me that i should'nt be friends with him and she makes me feel very bad about it...she tells me that God is wactching me and i'm in the wrong and that she's offended ....it's not like i'm with him saying"hey leave your wife for me" i'm not like that i have plenty of friends that are married and they are fine....the thing that hurts me is that she doesn't even know this guy and she's telling me not to hang out with him i'm friends with her husband too so what is the difference?
2007-03-11 14:25:24 · 10 answers · asked by mrs. MJ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she says that married people have thier own world and i should'nt be in it......
2007-03-11 14:26:07 · update #1
Your friends sounds very narrow minded.
Please just try to ignore that comment of hers.
If you're NOT sleeping with him or having an affair and is just FRIENDS then you are not doing anything wrong.
Married people are allowed to have friends. And yes TELL her that you're friends with her husband and is that wrong? Let see what she says now. And no there's no difference. If affairs do happen they can happen between anyone.
If she regards religion (no offence to anyone) more than your friendship and doesnt mind hurting you because of some script in a bibble/preaching/etc. Then, I dont know how good of a friend she is. Especially the fact that she doesnt trust you when you tell her that you have done nothing with this guy and is just friends. And the fact that she thinks you are the type of person that will tear someone's marriage apart.
And really. Married people are allowed to have friends. Even in the opposite sex. If anyone should be wrong or angry is depriving people of that right.
2007-03-11 14:35:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What your doing is wrong, and your friend knows this. Your friend cares about you, that is why she is telling you not to be around this man. You are playing with fire. You have been with this man in the past, it is only a matter of time before you two end up together again. Why would you want to be around a man who had lied to you about the fact that he was married anyways? When you have an affair with a married man and get caught, it ruins a lot of peoples lives. This man could have children at home and a loving wife that bends over backwards to make her husband happy. And here you are on the sideline, Miss Homewrecker. If you get pregnant, plan on being a single mother. Most married men never leave their wives. You should also care about your reputation. Imagine what people are saying about you when they see you with a married man. You are lucky that your friend still wants to be friends with you. Dump the married man and find yourself a nice single man. Think more of yourself than that. If you still want to hang out with this married man, don't get upset when women call you a slut.
2007-03-11 21:38:14 · answer #2 · answered by cmg1977 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So hold on you slept with him last summer when you didn't know he was married and now you don't see him like that and his friends told you that he's divorced?? Sounds like you are having an emotional affair with this man and to be honest if my hubby was hanging around another women all the time then hell yeah i would be pissed as it's like you are taking place and doing what he should be doing with his wife. Everything you are doing with him he should be doing with his wife. There is a difference between being a friend and what you are doing. You should not be hanging out with this guy all the time cause if he's always with you when does he have time for his wife. Do you know his wife, do you talk to her cause my guess is that you don't, i bet she thinks you're having an affair with him too. You should cut back on the time you are spending with him and allow his wife to be involved in his life.
2007-03-11 21:35:53 · answer #3 · answered by jimmy_chick78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The difference is .. you have already had sex with this guy. After that, you cant go back to being friends. Sex is the next step that people make together, once you cross that line you cant go back. I agree with your friend, you shouldnt be "friends" with this guy.
2007-03-11 21:31:13 · answer #4 · answered by dakota_gal_1968 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who cares if your think that he is a good friend and that you are not interfering into his marriage relationship then u 2 are good.don't worry about Ur friend he/she might just be jealous of u!happens all the time.
2007-03-11 21:37:15 · answer #5 · answered by pamela t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe this is actually her way of asking you to not be friends with her husband.
2007-03-11 21:29:19 · answer #6 · answered by sally gally 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if your friends think that ur crazy i don't think she iz a real friend because you should be able to get to pick whu you wana hang out with and be friends with!!!
2007-03-11 21:28:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to your friend, use reverse phycology! it doesnt seem fair to me, dat shes telling you dat its not a gud idea when ur frndz wit her husband!!!
2007-03-11 21:31:29 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ELI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why cant you find someone thats available, yer doing it because he's 'off limits' and thats just wrong
2007-03-11 21:33:32 · answer #9 · answered by smoothopr_2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds jealous.............screw her. Tell her you are hanging out with 5 married men. And they are all church going men so it's all right...........LOL
2007-03-11 21:29:06 · answer #10 · answered by Nagitar™ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋