My mom is sick and people keep sending me their apologies and i dont know what to say in resonse
2007-03-11 14:19:06 · 18 answers · asked by tripx1985 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
It depends on how you feel about it. It's okay to say thank you. But its also okay not to say thank you. We all think we have to be polite, but it's hard when we are angry about something, or things are not going as we expected.
I know when I had cancer people tip-toed around me, ignored me, or told me they were sorry. The tip-toers eventually got over their tip-toeing, but it took awhile. The people who ignored me obviously weren't good friends anyway. The people who say they are sorry just don't know what to say or do, so that's the only thing they can think of. It's not bad to say, and it is certainly better than ignoring. It shows that they have empathy for you, but please don't feel like you are expected to perform or do something if you don't feel up to it. Sometimes I would just say "that's okay" or "not your fault" to people when they said sorry.
I know it's your mom that is sick, but I truly believe it's harder on the family than it is on the person who is sick. At least it was in my case. Give your mom a hug from me. It's a hard thing to get through, but it can be done.
2007-03-11 15:43:55 · answer #1 · answered by temaleth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say "I'm sorry too, but thanks for your support"! and that's all you need to say. No big deal, you don't need to feel like you owe them more than just a polite "thank you". That's all than some people can have the guts to keep saying. Lighten up, it WILL get better! But I'm am sorry to hear of your Mom's diagnosis. Her diagnosis is NOT you, it's her issue-yes, it affects you, but you are not her cancer, so you don't have anything to feel guilty about, ok? I hope you have a circle of friends that you can lean on in this time of need! Make a phone list of people you can call & when it seems life is more than you can bear - you'll have someone you can reach out to that will help you by offering their support.
Take care!
2007-03-11 14:29:29 · answer #2 · answered by tbeargin 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tell them thank you, and ask them to say a prayer for her. Sometimes cancer is not the end. I had prostate cancer, and have been cancer free for four years after removal of my prostate. You should consult a preacher, bishop, or Reverend for yourself. Family togetherness is the best help for your mom.
2007-03-15 01:34:27 · answer #3 · answered by canbarra 2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 21:27:06 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I know exactly how you feel, because I feel sorry too." or just "Thanks" and leave it at that.
We were iniitially overwhelmed by people coming up to us and telling us how sorry they were. That was fine, but it did become hard emotionally on us as time went on . . because sometimes the news just wasn't that positive. Eventually we set up a Caringbridge website to keep people informed about what was happening. It really helped us and cut down on people constantly asking and us repeating the story all the time. You might consider setting up a Journal page:
Caringbridge
http://www.caringbridge.org/
Peace to you.
2007-03-11 16:37:59 · answer #5 · answered by Panda 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Since their apologies are heart felt you should tell them thank you.. If you need to talk to someone about how you feel about it, either talk to your relatives or a professional. This is a very hard time and I wish you all the best.
2007-03-11 14:25:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just tell them thank you and she is happy to know that so many people care and also let her know! Mother in law had cancer and was so hard to live through- Best wishes to her you and all of the family!
2007-03-11 14:25:40 · answer #7 · answered by T J 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
first of all im sorry to hear that. But you say thank you in return for people caring for your mom
2007-03-11 14:22:59 · answer #8 · answered by looklikebradpitt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank them for their kind thoughts and words and ask them to keep your mother and family in their daily prayers, as you will do for them and their family. I will also say a prayer for your mother. Good luck.
2007-03-11 14:24:19 · answer #9 · answered by Diana 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just tell them thank you and you could ask them to keep you and your family in their thoughts/prayers.
2007-03-11 15:24:20 · answer #10 · answered by AC 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋