How do you know when you should just ignore family or people bad mouthing you as a couple. He hasn't cheated on you or anyone in the past, and treats you well. So should you in the end give him up because your family doesn't agree with the union?
How much would you fight for someone you love and how would you show people that as long as that person makes you happy, thats all that matters?
2007-03-11 14:05:22 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When you are truly in love, it doesn't require a fight. It's just there and nothing will break it.
2007-03-11 14:07:51 · answer #1 · answered by ocean 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question. Fight for the person and show your family that he makes you happy and they can either get over it or just be dis-included from a huge part of your life since they are acting childish. If you know this man is right for you, then you better get far away from your family and nurture this union w/ your man. Being in the midst of a congregation of ugly looks, sneers, gossip, and an overall bad vibe from your family is going to make your man cringe and feel insecure.
He might even pick a fight eventually over why they cannot accept him and there goes your happy union. RIGHT OUT THE WINDOW.
So make sure you have a talk with you parents and if they still cannot accept how happy you are, than I would just not show up for holidays nor accept invites to family barbecues, parties, etc until they decide to happily invite your man as well.
They will either remain heartless (VERY UNLIKELY) or after a few months or weeks realize they are wrong and slowly come around. But be patient above all and stick by your man. And by staying away from your family instead of fighting to convince them, you will get a chance to concentrate on nurturing your relationship as you get to know your man, as well as being able to ENJOY your time together in a stress free atmosphere. and you will not looked stressed which will mean he will not be stressed. Let him know why your family thinks so narrowmindedly and that you are not going to put up with it, but do love them, and will stick by his side until they open up. He will feel loved and appreciated and most likely will understand and sympathize if he cares about you AND your family. If he is selfish and has no patience, than he is not worth it anyway. Good luck.
2007-03-11 14:17:50 · answer #2 · answered by vada 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
specific i might because of the fact no you will permit you realize whats on your heart even although lots of persons attempt to place recommendations on your head approximately what would be stunning for you yet in straight forward terms you and your real soulmate will ever understand whats the wonderful for the the two one among you. So if that's your real mate combat to the tip against all of the negativity attempting to maintain you aside out of your lifes companion. hi seem on the remarkable element as quickly as all of the scuffling with is over with the subsequent bunch that opposes you 2 will think of two times while they see how good your bond is on your mate
2016-10-18 03:46:17 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is your situation then just remember to do what makes you happy. Just be straight foward and tell them that its your decision who you are with and maybe they should just get over it. ..BUT..this happens with alot of people...sometimes love is so blind that you can't see for yourself what otheres see...I just got out of a relationship with someone who was so strict and controlling he wouldnt let me do anything and he wouldn't let me wear the slightest revealing clothes...finally I asked myself..Why is it that he doesnt mind looking at other girls who dress like that but when it comes to me he doesnt. These people..Family as you call them..May see how he acts when your not around..Maybe ask them why they don't think hes a good person or why they don't like him. Best of luck!
2007-03-11 14:11:48 · answer #4 · answered by evil_munchgin420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I been fighting for my love all this while. My parents will badmouth him, blacklist him, criticize him, and curse him bad, i know all are not true. I love my boy friend, and i have faith in him and we love each other, we have faith that some day my parents Will see his good side. All matter is we get blessing from my parents.
Fighting for my love, I need lots of determination, perseverance, and lots of patient, convince my parents to accept him as their son in law
2007-03-11 21:54:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i can say that happiness is relative and a lot of things aren't forever but family and friends are and they came first. We never really know until it's to late. but on the other hand can't sleep with family and friends like that
2007-03-11 14:12:28 · answer #6 · answered by swass2death 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fought like hell for more than 10 years, and finally, when we were both completely exhausted, we moved away. We're still together. I am not a quitter, and I am not one to let others rule my life or make my decisions. Screw them. Stand up for yourself!!!! Tell them they will lose you if they cannot accept your choices. And mean it. When they see that you mean it, they will come around, change their tune / shut the hell up...
2007-03-11 14:10:22 · answer #7 · answered by F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I'm not even gonna start on this one. Dang man, thats rough. Fight for the right to get lovin' dude... It has to be done
2007-03-11 14:09:27 · answer #8 · answered by muddbutts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that answer depends on ow much I love that particular person and if I love them enough I would be prepared to fight aginst anyone or anything if I truly love him.
2007-03-11 14:12:02 · answer #9 · answered by ~sweetness 101~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fight. i would and its not that serious right now but i pretty much am. don't let him go, but just remember: in the future, unless you plan to get married, he won't be there, and family will.
2007-03-11 14:08:23 · answer #10 · answered by aerie anna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋