Whenever I discipline my daughter, she runs to her dad, he picks her up, and then he asks me why I did that. Then he lets her have or do whatever it is I disciplined her for in the first place.
2007-03-11 13:15:31 · 8 answers · asked by ellasdaughter2004 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Wow, he's really setting himself up for some heartbreak! I actually have had that situation in my own home. She was always "daddy's little girl" and 95% of the fights in our home were because of that very same thing. Once she became a teenager, she was constantly playing us against each other. What we did was sit down in a non-confrontational manner and discuss things we believed needed discipline. We then agreed on the consequence ahead of time. We wrote out a list, and let our daughter know what was going to happen if she did certain things. It WILL get worse before it gets better because a pattern has been established, but getting on the same page discipline-wise is the only way you are going to resolve that situation. You might have to compromise somewhat, but it is essential that you stand firm as a team. Good luck!
2007-03-11 13:24:18 · answer #1 · answered by jzmn2btrfly121 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to talk about discipline in general, and bring up specific examples, of how HE would handle the situation. Explain your reasonings, and then the two of you discuss how you could find a middle ground. Perhaps it isn't that you are disciplining your daughter, but your methods that he has issue with? Also, when situations arise, tell your daughter to go to Daddy and have Daddy solve the 'issue' thus taking you out of it all together. Don't attempt discipline and then say, see your Dad, just simply tell her to go see her Daddy for the answer. Talk it over with him...Good Luck.
2007-03-11 20:44:49 · answer #2 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let him know that if you two are not on the same page when it comes to your daughter, then all you will do is hurt the child. As long as you are not abusing her, then he should back you up and stand with you on your decisions. Tell him that he doesn't always have to agree with you but he cannot show that in front of your daughter. All that is going to come out of this ia a little girl who does not care what her mom says because she can always run to daddy. She will have no respect and zero disipline. Good luck!!
2007-03-11 20:24:08 · answer #3 · answered by JENNIFER C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk up to him right in front of your daughter and hit him on the head with a frying pan. Of course your little girl will start laughing because she will think it is a game. Then look at him and say, "that hurt didn't it?... however our daughter LOVED it...but I know you don't want me to do it again. THIS is how I feel when you undermine my authority with her. DON'T EVER DO IT AGAIN!" I think he will get the picture.
2007-03-11 21:42:04 · answer #4 · answered by denise_in_ohio 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you two need to sit down and work out what's acceptable behavior for your daughter. She's finding out that she can play one parent against the other. And children master the concept of "divide and conquer" early on!
2007-03-11 21:46:00 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him, instead of asking us.
Let him know that if you don't show a united front, your kid will end up like those brats on Nanny 9.1.1.
2007-03-11 20:21:20 · answer #6 · answered by kelannde 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to knock it off or he won't be ON your **** list, he will BE your **** list.
2007-03-11 21:16:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
BY GETTING RID OF HIM?
2007-03-11 20:45:13 · answer #8 · answered by Yum*Yum 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋