I have a very negative younger sister; she constantly ruins family dinners and outings with unwanted and nasty comments. Sometimes she wakes me up just to hit me and tell me I suck. I don't know whether to take this as sibling rivalry or her 'awesome' personality? I try to fight back but I am apparently 'lowering her self confidence' (as my parents put it) So I basically have to swallow down my anger and frustration and accept another perfectly good time ruined. It's not even just with me she acts like this! I love my sister and I do not want us to grow up with a horrible relationship and end up not talking, but I am at the point where I don't want to know her, let alone talk to her. I've heard I should just ignore her, but is that all I will remember when I look back on these days? It makes me scared that she is so angry all the time, I do not want her to end up like a druggie or a goth or something. What do you all think? Please answer fast... I am going insane!
2007-03-11 13:07:44 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My sister and I had problems like this when we were younger. We both were too proud to discuss why we were unhappy, and we took it out on each other. It is sweet that you see through your problem with her and realize this could affect her future. Try to find a way to hang out with her more. Memories will always be there. Try telling her a corny joke or something. She will probably still be negative, but at least you'd be connecting and making sure she knows you are there.
Complaining about her to your parents or to her is probably not going to get you very far. She knows she's being negative. Duh! Try to trick her out of it. See if she wants you to paint her fingernails. Ask if she'll fix your hair, because she is so good at it. She won't expect you to talk to her like a friend instead of a concerned elder. Try it.
2007-03-11 14:36:00 · answer #1 · answered by skip_pingstone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might have to talk to HER, the way I look at it a person doesn't get angry for nothing without having a problem, did somebody do something to her, perhaps at home at school- anywhere or is she at the stage of puberty- might have something to do with it if she's older than that well try and sus it out and try to understand her for a second, sit back and watch her attitude towards certain people and anything like that- goodluck.
2007-03-11 13:22:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to always say positive things to and about her even when she acts that way.And no matter what she says or does just tell her its OK , you love her anyway.I have had to do this with a sister in past and even if it doesn't make her better it makes you feel better and doesn't bring you down to her standards...Maybe she needs anger management classes?
2007-03-11 13:16:56 · answer #3 · answered by Dixie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk your parents into having a family meeting, so that you can discuss your feeling with your sister, without her being able to get all crazy on you.
2007-03-11 13:16:03 · answer #4 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think everyone has one of those in their family I know I do, first talk to her about the problem and if that don't work, don't let her punk you, stand up for self, at least you'll know you tried.
2007-03-11 13:40:47 · answer #5 · answered by Melissa M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she needs some professional help if she's waking you up to abuse you, stop taking this abuse from her and tell your parents you need their help.
2007-03-11 14:39:13 · answer #6 · answered by inluvwithb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be nice to her and don't do things that will annoy or bother her. Do things that will make her happy.
2007-03-11 13:14:28 · answer #7 · answered by Cilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋