Okay, i am having a great time with this guy i know. we have been dating and hanging out and we really have the best of times together. We have never made out or anything.. just a peck on the cheek for goodbye and a hug for hello. I am 18 he is around 40? I never actually asked him his age. Well, i got to thinking if maybe he is married..and then if he is, i would feel guilty athough if he is married he can't have that strong of a marriage because he would not be hanging out with me if it was. So should i ask him? if he says yes, then i would not feel right seeing him anymore. I am scared of this, becasue we are having such a good time togther. Also how would i go about asking him. I can't just blurt a thing like that out!
2007-03-11 12:46:35 · 21 answers · asked by NY Lady 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
HEY THERE , ASK HIM IF HE IS MARRIED ..BUT BE CAREFUL SOME MEN LIE ..HE KNOWS YOU ARE YOUNGER AND HE MAY TAKE A ADVANTAGE OF YOU ..LOOK FOR A RING ON HIS FINGER ..IF YOU SEE ONE SAY, AWE ARE YOU MARRIED?
I THINK THAT IS SO SWEET, HE IS ONE LUCKY GUY TO HAVE A YOUNG ONE LIKE YOU ..WISH , I HAD ONE ., GOD BLESS YOU!
2007-03-12 11:25:45 · answer #1 · answered by Swm 39 4 Younger Swf Forever 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really want an honest relationship with any guy you need to ask the hard questions.. like what baggage are you holding on to.. wife?.. ex wife?.. are your kids the same age as me? Also you need to find out if he has been tested for all the venereal diseases that are out there including, hiv.. you can't get serious with anyone unless you get all that out of the way. Some guys like the idea of being with another woman but still go home to the wife and kids.. you really don't' want to be the 'other woman' do you? the pay is low and guilt is high.
2007-03-11 19:52:49 · answer #2 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course you should ask --- im sorry it should have been one of the first questions --- he may lie about it --- there are indications --- do you have his home phone number --- does he tell you not to call at certain times or only at his place of work? --- if he makes no restrictions then he is probably not married or if married in the process of getting a divorce --- best wishes --- and if you have been going out for a while maybe find out what you both want from the relationship -- he does not appear as though sex is the primary concern (which is an indication that he is NOT married)
2007-03-11 19:53:14 · answer #3 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can blurt a thing like that out, you deserve to know and he should have told you already for sure as it is, given the situation.
You don't want to be involved with a man that is married that would do that to his wife (if he is indeed married, he may not be).
If he has no issues doing that to his wife now, if you two were ever to be serious I don't think he would have any issue doing it to you also.
All this is contingent upon the fact that he is married, if he isn't, then go out and have fun!
2007-03-11 19:50:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What kind of great times are you having with this guy? If it is like boyfriend/girl friend sort of thing you need to ask because 22 years is a big gap. Especially when the youngest one is 18.
2007-03-11 19:55:45 · answer #5 · answered by Michael M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really doesn't matter if his marriage is strong or not. It comes down to who you are and whether or not you are allowing yourself to get played.
If he is married and wifey is unaware of his affairs - you will ALWAYS be second... If you ever moved into the wife seat - trust and believe that he will do the same to you with another girl...
If he is not married - it is all good - you are just protecting your self... If he gets mad over the question - that my friend is a red flag...
2007-03-11 19:58:15 · answer #6 · answered by prettylilredbonegal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if you wont hang out with him if he is married then ask him? Just ask any guy thats older love younger woman I am 32 have crush on 18 year old it happens. BUt, if your not being intimate its not big deal if it gets more seriouse yes something you want to know before going further.
2007-03-11 19:52:08 · answer #7 · answered by jtucker70 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can and should ask him. And when you do ask him watch carefully how he reacts, be sure he is telling you the truth. And please if he tells you he is married but staying with his wife for the sake of the children or his wife doesn't understand him, or any other lame excuse don't get involved with him. Don't waste your time with a cheater.
2007-03-11 19:58:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes ask. As you may find his wife on your door step. That could end up like an Amy Fisher deal!
2007-03-11 19:56:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh, ASK HIM!!!!! Does he wear a ring? While in the middle of a conversation with him, just ask him, so have you ever been married? If he is, you need to definitely get out of it as soon as possible.
2007-03-11 19:51:56 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋