Why does it seem as if the only thing men are interested in is sex?

Question

It seems to me that most, not all, men care only for sex while females seem more emotional and attached...why?

Answer 1

Men are definitely more visual where women are more emotional, especially with sex. And boys have their sexual peak so early that it takes women into their 30's to catch up...so even when they do they expect men to be more interested in sex than them even at that age. Men are used to having to make the first move and go after what they want while the woman chooses who she likes...I think it is partly that we are made differently and partly society expecting men to be the aggressor and initiator which leads them to do that more when even in a relationship.

Finally, the media has a little to do with this as well...you can't watch a TV show or look at a magazine without seeing stereotypes of men caring primarily for sex or making fun of them when they are emotional, caring for children, doing housekeeping, keeping in touch with family. When you see that men are all thought of as unemotional and unable to be attached, made fun of when they do so...there is a lot of reasons there to live within those stereotypes. Why be vulnerable when women act like we are a joke doing so?

Answer 2

For men, sex leads to good emotions; for women, good emotions lead to sex. A lot of men focus only on the sex part and forget about opening themselves up to emotional intimacy; just as a lot of women focus only on emotional intimacy and forget how great sex is. Both are distortions.

The secret for women is to remember that it's hard-wired into men to focus on sex, but that isn't necessarily the whole story. For men the secret is the reverse.

As a woman you should remember the difference, not expect men to react the way women do, and look for relationships with men who are capable of more than merely desiring to use you sexually. It's tricky but it can be done.

Answer 3

It has to do with the way humans evolved. The male of the species is usually more dominant than the female. Males have been hard wired (especially when they're younger, but often even into middle and old ages too) to procreate as much as possible. If we didn't, the species would be less likely to survive.
Females are usually the more emotional and attached ones because they have to provide nutrition to their child after birth. Since the females of our ancestor species were usually weaker than the males, they needed a male hunter/scavenger to provide food for her so that she could care for the child.
New studies suggest that babies resemble the male parent more than the female one so that the male parent will see himself in the child and be more likely to stick around.

Or it could just be the social stigma of the times.

EDIT: I do appreciate how this has turned by and large into a male bashing thread. Those women who complain about men being only into sex have no idea what it's like to be a man and to have every fiber of one's being telling you to procreate.

Answer 4

That's what makes us genetically different, besides our physical differences. I beg to differ about them only being interested in sex.
If more women would engage in 'their interests' we'd learn that it's possible that we are the nymphomaniacs, not them!! Men are really complex, sensitive, funny & innovative. Most of my friends are guys, & on more than one occassion I've been accused of having my mind in the gutter instead of focusing on the conversation at hand. So perhaps the problem isn't them, maybe it's sometimes us. Think about it, if men walked around half-naked all the time, where would our interest be? Society has a play in men not openingly displaying their emotions too. They are expected to be tough, strong & emotionally-detached.

Answer 5

women are more emotionally attached, men are more sexually driven then women,it has something to do with keeping the population up. In the bible god said to go and multiply,but he didn"t mean it in the way that alot of guys act,they can be asses but there some good ones

Answer 6

I'm sorry to tell you this but that's all men think about. I dated somebody who all he wanted to do was do me. He didn't care where or when. I finally dumped him because I want a man with a good sex drive but I also want a man who is interested in my mind.

Answer 7

Men are runned by their hormones well the undeveloped ones are at least. So unless your ready to give it up move out their way!

Answer 8

Cause men seem to think with only one part of there anatomy. Besides most of them are to worried about being "guys" to admit to themselves that they want more. Until there 40 living in there parents basement... "stroking it"

Answer 9

BOYS. Boys are only interested in sex. MEN know there are other things to life too.
now wheres my wife? i wanna get my leg over.

Answer 10

That's not true anymore, Women are as bad as men. only difference is women already, know if there going home with someone. men can only hope.......aah ! were all animals, Enjoy.