ok so i have been with my gf for a year and a half. everything was going great but as of late she has lost her sexual drive. i was worried that she might be cheating on me but i checked into that and there is nothing. I need help in trying to get her sexual drive back she has been going threw some issues but every so often she starts and then stops. i dont force her or anythign and then she ends up crying i do my best to comfort her but i am out of ideas. Please if you have any ideas on ways to get her back into the mood or how to comfort her please let me know.....
thanks
2007-03-11 12:23:24 · 15 answers · asked by biggsclimes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You indicate that she has had some difficulties lately and stressful situations can affect our sex drives. The first thing you need to do is decide if you want to be there for her through this. Sex is important in a relationship but if it's the main focal point, you'll end up not having your needs met and so will she. If you can be there for her and support her through this, in time, things should return to a more normal level. You are the only one that can decide whether you're willing to maintain your support and not worry about the other. I wish you the best.
2007-03-11 12:29:19 · answer #1 · answered by Michele D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay she might feel in the most blunt way of putting it "UGLY" if she feels she's even a pound overwieght or that the pimple she just got is horrifying there's no real way to help out a women after that, specailly if she's sensitive. Just make sure you always tell her that you think she's beautiful and that you love her body! It's vain sounding but some women just really need to hear these things you know. She then might feel more comfortable with herself and when having sex.
2007-03-11 19:49:17 · answer #2 · answered by wldsxychild 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to tell her how you feel and tell her that you understand and will be there for her whenever she needs u and ask her if there's anything u could do to ease away the pain. It could be that she doesn't feel like she can trust you or that you don't understand what she is going through and tries to block it all out in her head which is probably why the sex is not working as she is not relaxed in her mind. Just keep telling her how much you care about her and that she's not alone in whatever she's going through with at the moment. Good luck
2007-03-11 19:31:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, I don't think you're being insensitive like some have mentioned. There could be emotional as well as medical issues going on, ultimately it is up to her to sort it out. You can try some "spice" but sometimes it doesn't have anything to do with the other person.
If you have truly ruled out cheating, she needs to work with you to deal with the issue.
2007-03-11 20:32:00 · answer #4 · answered by cooper06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Your girlfriend is, as you say, going "threw" some issues. And what you are worried about is satisfying your sex drive. A really great, kind, compassionate boyfriend you are. Dump her. She will be better off.
2007-03-11 19:27:22 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa A 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't force her if she's going through issues, but just be caring and gentle and when she's in a good mood maybe do some romantic stuff for her - make her a meal/get some flowers etc etc and be loving and see how it goes.
2007-03-11 19:27:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like deeper issues going on with her, maybe she's not telling you something, have a long talk,but don't pressure her, remember communication is key in a relationship. LOL
2007-03-11 19:27:17 · answer #7 · answered by Melody F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well unfortunatly it is becoming a problem in some women. There are things you can do. She needs to consult her doctor there are things she can take to help get her sexual drive back.
2007-03-11 19:27:47 · answer #8 · answered by pinkbunnylol 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
start by being more romantic the problem is you probably ruined her sex drive by not giving her enough foreplay. buy some candles and chocolate or even play some romantic music that should get her stimulated.
2007-03-11 19:27:19 · answer #9 · answered by gangsta ma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cuddle with her, let her know that you find her attractive if not down right sexy, Be romantic, talk with her over her dreams, ask her if she has any fantasy's and then do some of them for her. massages are always nice, pamper her, spoil her, Most IMPORTANT B THERE FOR HER AND LOVE HER UNCONDITIONALLY
2007-03-11 19:33:31 · answer #10 · answered by outlawprincess5321 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋