Hey ladies have any of you read that book "the rules" and it actually worked for you. I'm sick of being a doormat and wanna set some boundaries so I'm gonna read that book and see if it works. What do you think?.
2007-03-11 12:12:40 · 8 answers · asked by Ginger 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A real man loves a woman with boundaries & limits. A woman with no "rules" is a cheater in the flesh. Be strong & smart & the perfect guy will notice & respect you.
2007-03-11 12:16:57 · answer #1 · answered by Paul P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not date any woman who read that book and took every word in it seriously . . . I've heard too much bad about it. In summary (or so I'm told, as I wouldn't waste money on a dating advice book for women) it tells women to play hard to get . . . let the poor fellow do all the work. Backing off might be a good idea of you're definitely trying too hard, but only a small fraction of women have that problem on a regular basis. For the rest of women, playing hard to get will do nothing but frustrate and alienate men. A few very patient and semi-desperate men might put up with that kind of treatment, but the rest of us want women who actually seem to like us.
In short, I think you need to do more than set boundaries if you're being treated like a "doormat" . . . you need to date different men. That, and not what you read in a book, will be the answer to your problem. Good luck!
2007-03-11 12:28:01 · answer #2 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm just saying that if you live your life by a book would it be much better than being a doormat? Just defend yourself and don't take advice from a book that doesn't know what problems you're having. Cause no matter which copy of the book you have they all say the same thing. mysterious
2007-03-11 12:17:33 · answer #3 · answered by The Flying Porcupine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Years ago I read that book for fun and I think it has some good points, but also some ridiculous ones. Keep in mind that one of the authors has since divorced, so her own rules didn't work perfectly for her. Setting limits and boundaries is a really good idea. It works in many ways other than dating. Good for you!
2007-03-11 12:16:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy and it actually works for both sexes.
Rules girls rock. Seriously. I'm a bit of a refined "player" who has morals and I would be into that kind of thing. Go for it. Though you won't get much QUANTITY, you will certainly get a quality that other approaches won't be able to.
Fatoodles,
Franklin
2007-03-11 12:21:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i heard about the rules..in general i've used the rules even before reading the book..some of it is common sense.
2007-03-11 12:17:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont need a book to do that --- you just need to decide what you want --- raise your standards and allow yourself to be surprised
2007-03-11 12:17:28 · answer #7 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why read a book.you just know to change what is in yur heart.
2007-03-18 14:50:18 · answer #8 · answered by dmncprkr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋