How do I get over a man in India, who I know will never be mine?

Question

I recently went to India and I think i fell in love with a man there. Everything about him, is just so perfect for me. I have never met a man like this before. But i know that I will never be with him because I am 9 years younger than him, I don't live in India, and I think he has a girlfriend. It has been nearly three months since I have last seen or spoken to him yet I think of him everyday! I don't know why. (I was basically with him the entire time I was in India, over a month.) I don't know, there is just something about him that makes me so happy. And i know that i will never be able to be with him and so i am trying to get over him but I can't. maybe someone can help me?

Answer 1

I don't much about your situtation and if you really were in love with him or maybe it was an infatuation. I was in a simlar situation like you before. I was in love, atleast I thought it was love, with a man who was also about 8 years older than me. He made me smile and he took good care of me. But I had the feeling that he had a girlfriend but I never accepted that because I wanted him to be mine. He was good-looking, hard-working, funny. He wanted to make something of his life. He knew when it was time to work and when it was time to have some fun. He was also very romantic. Then one day I found out for sure, that he had a girlfriend! I cryed to myself and I was so sad for a few days but then i realized there was nothing I could do about it. I didn't want to break-up his relationship and the person he loved. It was just never meant to be.
Maybe in your case, you should realize that you may find him perfect, but you both lead very different lives. He is from India and you live out of India. Those are very different life-stlyles. Could be able to adjust? You are India but you have different beliefs/values/culture than him. Will you change? Maybe now you know what kind of person you are looking for in life and this will help you out. But remember never compare other men to him when you are looking/dating others. If you do that, then you will never find anyone and you will never be happy because you will always be looking for something that is not possible.
and maybe you should also think that maybe he thought of you just as a friend or maybe even a little sister.
Just remember all those moments you shared with him but think of them in a differnt way. Go out and enjoy life, meet new people that will help you get over him. i hope this helps you. just remember that there is soo much to live for out there. he is not the main thing in your life. your family, your friends, your hobbies, your goals are the main things in life. okay.

Answer 2

If you really want to get over this Indian guy, I would say only the time can heal you. But do you really have to forget about him? If you really love someone deeply, age difference and nationality don't matter at all. Don't care about his girlfriend either, because they might break up after sometime. So if you love him from the core of your heart, and you are sure he loves you too (If he really loves you, you can feel that), and the bond between you two is strong, nothing is ever impossible. Trust your gut feeling and go with the flow. If you tried and things didn't work out, then it's the time to put his memories aside. By then, you can feel like, at least you've tried. You are not coming to this stage yet. If you don't want to reglet later, make some action now. Life is short. Good luck.

Answer 3

You are in love baby. Being nine years younger doesn't matter. That age gap is ok. But it's important that the guy feels the same about you. Ask him whether he has a gf or not. If not, you could try telling him about your feelings. Take your chances with your love.

It's not necessary that he would love you too. But you can always keep the sweet memories. You will definitely find someone of your kind some fine day. Cos life always moves on. And life always gives us a second chance. Only thing is, we should be wise enough to grab those opportunities. I hope you are not allowing it to affect other aspects of your life.

All the best...

:-)

Answer 4

Enjoy the time you spent with him by the memories you've shared together. I believe you've answer your own question by saying, "I know that I will never be able to be with him".

He has his life in India with a girlfriend that might one day be his wife.

Thoughout life you'll meet individuals who will have a wonderful influcence on you as those who won't. Be of good cheer and understand that the love that is truly design for you--you'll not miss. Therefore, just write this down in your journal of the wonderful time shared with this individual. Good Luck.

Answer 5

There is a saying that to remove a lighter shade of colour, you need to put a darker shade of colour on it. So to just got out with other guys and start dating, maybe a greater love/infactuation on someone else will help forget this one. All the best.

Answer 6

How candy that's!!! yet regardless of the reality that, this complete scenario would not have worked w/every person, might it?! reminiscence serving me wisely, i be attentive to this would not have worked, regardless IF the whole bar become bro't ceremony to their abode...:)