i need some serious help?

Question

ok, its weird how i respected my dad,step dad,other of my siblings and other of my relatives, but when it comes to my mom, i love her, but i naturally tend to get angry at her most of the time. its like she always like to complain and the worst part she repeats it non-stop when i finally understood, i dont see other people in my family doing that. like today i was doing hw, she told me to sign a paper she was going to pay for a school picture i was suppose to hand in tommorow, then i said "i'll do it in a few min" she got mad and said i been dong my hw all morning and i never said that, so i signed the paper in anger cause i didnt want the pic she did. then she screamed at me and said shes the one paying (thats true) but i never wanted the pic so shes wasting her money cause she wants to. its like i feel like im going to pop a vessel when i talk to her. i literally turn red when she does that. its hard to love her, when shes like this. what should i do?

im 13 btw and never had a good relationship with her cause always wont agree with me, thats why im so different from other people im so shy,smart,hardly speak, and very artistic and speak. like everyone around me said i draw so well and i go to an art high school, but all my mom says about my drawings are "oh well, i dont know who that is"

Answer 1

Young women (your age) and their Moms often have difficulty communicating properly. You mentioned that you do respect the male members of your family ... well ... try to be a little more tolerant of your Mom sometimes. Moms don't have an easy job parenting, working, looking after household chores, finances and trying to relationships with all the different adults and kids in the family. Please don't think that I'm making excuses for her ... I'm sure that if she had written her version of your situation ... I would probably say the same thing.

The next couple of years may be difficult ones for both of you. You are growing and maturing and don't feel like your a little girl anymore and Mom seeing this happening feels concerned that she's losing her little girl and hopes that the maturity kicks in soon enough so that she doesn't have to worry about you so much.

As for the school picture ... please have the picture taken and don't feel that she's wasting her money on it. My son who is now 21 years old ... didn't want school pictures taken either ... but I always insisted. Today he is so pleased to be able to look back at these memories and it will please him even more when he's old, grey and/or bald ... when he'll be able to see what a lovely kid he was!

Please be patient ... growing up through the next couple of years won't be the easiest thing but if you co-operate and try to keep an open mind with respect to your Mom ... you will learn an awful lot! Once you get into your early 20's your relationship with her will change again and hopefully over your lifetime she will be there for a long long time.

My own Mother passed away 3 years ago and I consider myself lucky to have had her for 47 years of my life. Things weren't always easy ... but today... there are so many things that happen daily and I'd love to be able to share with her.

Anything that's worth having means there's a lot of hard work involved. I wish you luck and hope that you both do your part and enjoy a lasting good relationship as Mother and Daughter!

Answer 2

This is a difficult time for you in your life and believe it or not it is also a difficult time for your mother. I remember being 13 and how my mom and I constantly butted heads and I all but hated her lol. However if you and your mom have never had a good relationship then this period in your life will be even harder. A lot of mother and daughters butt heads from very early on, especially if they are a lot alike. My advise to you is to try to be patient, show your mom love, be respectful and if at all possible try talking this out with a school counselor or a teacher. Some adult you trust and respect and that when having heard the whole story can advise you better than anyone on yahoo answers can.

God Bless!

Answer 3

Sometimes we don't get along well with the family member who has the personality most like ourselves. We tend to do better with an opposite. Maybe you are high strung and so is she. Your dad might be calmer and do well with both of you. Mothers and daughters are notorious for fighting, especially during the teenage years. Be patient and do your best. One day you will find you have a much more loving relationship with each other.

Answer 4

you are just angry because you love her and you feel she's not respecting you for what you think and feel. this is not abnormal. it's just a mother and child relationship. it will get easier as years go by. just go with the flow. your yelling and pouting will not accomplish anything. just try to explain to her, when both of you are not angry, that you love her, but she has to give you some room to grow and be you. if you are both yelling, no one is listening. so try to be the bigger person. let her say what she wants to say. evaluate in your head what she is saying, she may be right, but if you still feel it's wrong what she's saying, wait until you both are at peace and then tell her your feelings and why you are feeling that way. let her know you respect what she is doing for you, but you have your own thoughts and can't we at least compromise to make both of our lives work together. respect works both ways and means so much. she, as you, have to listen to each other to make a happier home for both of you. good luck to both of you.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

when I was in that age I used to fell that my mom hates me compare to my brother and sisters then I realized its just my feeling no matter what your still her daugther.just respect her and love her we owe our life to her.