i want her to get a divorce. I want him out of our lives! he is abusive to my mo AND myself, both mentally AND physically! He has lived in our house for FIVE YEARS! in those five years, I have cried into my pillow at night until my pllow felt like someone had put it on the deck of the Titanic as it was going under the water. how do I tell my mom that I want her to get a divorce without my step-dad knowing about the conversation?
2007-03-11 11:49:27 · 9 answers · asked by mcneill_samantha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
if he is abusing you call the police don't be afraid you can also call family services. if your afraid to let some Else call for you.tell them that your being abused by your step father.and yes also let your dad know whats going on before it's to late.PLEASE don't wait it might be one day.he could eventually kill your mom and you won't be able to stop blaming yourself 911 is just a phone call away use it the next time he decides to beat you or your mom
2007-03-11 12:04:11 · answer #1 · answered by sandra r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there someone who you trust to talk to about this? A school counselor, perhaps? Do you-or a friend-go to a church where you/she respects the minister, so you could talk with him? Now, to weigh the pros and cons-if there IS physical and emotional abuse, these matters will be taken seriously by family services agencys; teachers, I think, are obligated to report any suspicion of such activities to these very agencies, which may result in you being placed in foster care until this can all be ironed out-which could take awhile! About having that conversation with your mom-do you know whether or not she would tell your stepdad? And if so, do you know what his reaction would be? Have you even discussed this with your mom? I mean-does she KNOW that you are unhappy? If there is any time when you can discuss this subject with her while the stepdad is not around, do so-see what her reaction is. If she is unsympathetic, then you must decide what to do next. But if not-hey, maybe she's even been thinking about leaving him-you dont know until you ask. One last point-do you have an aunt or uncle that you love, trust and respect enough to confide in, or perhaps a grandparent? Search your soul and pray seriously about these things, and try not to be overwhelmed. One day at a time-one step at a time. Don't do anything rashly. God love you and be with you.
2007-03-11 12:23:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mom about your feelings (as long as you can trust she won't tell your step-dad, you don't want him angry and getting worse!) She may be afraid of him herself and doesn't know how to get out of the marriage. It would be good if she sought counseling for the both of you. If she won't do anything about it, you could choose to live with dad like suggested, or do you have an aunt, grandmother, even sometimes a best friend's family might be willing to take you in for a couple of months so you can have a break and get yourself together. Please make sure you call the police if he ever gets violent and may hurt someone. (that will get social services involved!) If he is really abusive to you that you can't take it anymore, talk to your school counselor, they should be able to step in and get someone involved in the matter. I will pray that things will get better for your family, this is a sad situation. Best wishes.
2007-03-11 12:32:23 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be able to talk to your mom and tell her it is between you two. If you don't feel safe enough to do that and the man is really abusing you, you need to tell someone that can help like a teacher or something. Maybe even a relative that you trust.
Be safe, I'm sorry you are going through this. Things will get better but you have to hold on and try to get help.
2007-03-11 11:55:37 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he's abuseing you and your Mom go to teh cops and reprot him and when he goes to jail just get some stuff and you and your MOm leave. But wait till he isn't around and talk to your Mom about how you feel. ALso if he abuses you talk to a counslor at school and tell him what he does to you and your Mom. That's probably the only way someone can help you'll. ALso tell your Mom not to take the abuse and divorce him before he really hurts someone. Want to caht with someone just IM me anytime
2007-03-11 11:57:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mom when your step dad is at work or try therapy. My parents have been divorced and remarried more times than I can count and know my mom lives in Seattle. Good luck. If you have any brothers or sisters try to talk to them and maybe the can help you talk to your mom. Good luck!
2007-03-11 11:55:49 · answer #6 · answered by lilithfan_bebe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that you are having a rough time with your step-dad. There has to be times that you and your mother are alone. Maybe in a car, or tell her that you need mother, daughter time and go to dinner. express your feelings to her and tell her how you feel. I can't promise that she will take everything that you say a go with it, but at least you will feel better that she knows how you feel. Or have you consider going and living with your dad?
2007-03-11 12:20:52 · answer #7 · answered by Jules 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him hear you tell mom about it. Make sure he knows your feelings. Add that you are thinking of reporting him for your mental abuse.
2007-03-11 11:53:57 · answer #8 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your dad's house and call her or e-mail her or maybe while he's out tell her
2007-03-11 11:54:52 · answer #9 · answered by ♥cutie♥ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋