ok, i cheated, but we only went out for less than a week so far...?

Question

i have a bf who ive known for a long time but we've only gone out since wednesday, but last night (ive known this kid for a while too, but not as long and have always had a crush on him) i was at a hockey game with another kid and he asked another chic out, but later me, him and our parents went out for dinner. we talked about how we loved eachother, we held hands, *touched* eachother under the table, so yeah.
i want both of them, now what? we are all 13

im going out with both right now, my 1st one i cheated on goes to my school, the other one doesnt...

Answer 1

Ahh, honey you're not going to like my answer at all, but you're still way too young for this.

At thirteen years old and after less than a week of dating, you don't love anyone like that yet. I'm probably going to have people arguing about this, but you just don't. When you love someone it's more than just being attracted to them and you make the choice to care more about what's best for that person than about what you want. You might have some really strong crushes and genuinely like them as friends, but you certainly don't love either of those boys and your actions show it.

And what were you two touching under the table? Sweetie, your 13 years old! Slow down now, or you're going to end up hurt fast.

If you want both of them, then the truth is that you don't want either of them in a good way yet. I would suggest taking a step back from both of them and just being yourself for like a year, at least. Having a boyfriend is nice, especially when they make you feel loved and cared about and pretty. Believe me, relationships are amazing and I'm not trying to spoil your life, but you've got to snap out of this or you're going to get hurt. You should be having fun with friends and going to the mall and riding your bike and whatever else thirteen year olds are supposed to do.

I don't like calling you immature right now, but the fact is that you are. And that's okay; it's exactly the way you're supposed to be! You need to figure out who you are before you can really be with anyone else and it's going to take you a year or two to do that. Please, please, give yourself that time because if you don't I think you're going to end up regreting how silly you're being right now.

Also, regardless of how old you are, you should never et any boy touch you inappropriately. Trust me honey, it's not good and you don't want a boy who's going to try taking advantage, much less when you're not even going out, you already have a boyfriend, and all of your parents are there!

I'm in college. I remember being thirteen and I remember my friends when they were thirteen and not one of us was ready for relationships. We were all silly little girls (and the boys were just as bad) and that's the way it's supposed to be at the time. Dating is for like the middle of high school and I think almost everyone I know who tried it before then ended up regretting it.

Please think about all this, darlin. Good luck growing up!
Katydid

Answer 2

Umm... doesn't matter how long you've known somebody, how long you've dated someone, etc. cheating hurts the other person. So... you can't have both of them. Besides which, you're 13, so it doesn't really matter in the grand scheme of things. You succeeded in teaching that other guy that girls can't always be trusted. So he'll know to be more careful before he gets to high school. You've done a service in a way, but you still screwed up. You're 13, and "touched" under the table? With his parents there? Geez... what is this worl;d coming to?

Answer 3

it could have been alittle nicer to have informed your spouse you become completed in the past you cheated and went out of this courting without the words you cheated.i think of any courting is tough yet be careful to no longer leap from one problem to a multiple issues seem to look all rosie on the commencing up till you come across out who they are certainly.be careful .good success.do no longer cope along with her advise tho that's no longer spectacular.

Answer 4

THIRTEEN?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?! holy **** your kidding me? im 14 and i know that thats bad you NEVER say you love someoen at 13 cause you don't know what love is you may think your in love but your not i would berak up with them both because of how confused you are, i nkow it may seem like having a boyfriend is the most important thing in the world but its not....focus on your academics

Answer 5

All I can say is stop while you are ahead! Karma is a mother... All of the things you do will come back! don't be the heartbreaker because as you get older and are ready to settle down then you will be the one getting your heart broken. Don't be so foolish!

Answer 6

At 13 you are touching under the table? I won't say anymore because you won't pay attention to logic.

Answer 7

You are a confused little brat who will just be an item in the eyes of men if you keep this kind of behavior up.

Answer 8

Well if you are thirteen you can have them both. They don't know how it works too well I am assuming so tell him that when you are dating you date around. Don't meet them both on the same day though. "Break up with one" Hook up with they other and break up with them.

Even better...
If the first guy that you mentioned was a good friend just tell him that you prefer him that way and he will probably agree.

Answer 9

you are way to young to even be thinking about boys,and any girl who lets a boy touch her in approiately not only loses her self respect but also loses the respect of the boy

Answer 10

13's a little young hon. You might want to take it easy for now. I'd take the one that you think is better for you.