We broke up because we did not have enough communication and were always fighting. He broke up with me 5 days ago. I love him and I feel like he is the one I am suppose to be with. We went out for two years. I ruined everything by being a *****. The night he broke uup with me he did not want to hear what I had to say, he said it was my last chance. I want to call him ,maybe in the next couple of day and ask him idf we can try to make this work. He said he did not like who I was lately., But I had not been acting like myself. I know I was being mean and not a good girlfriend:( What should I say to him. I love him so much. He does mean the world to me. He hurt me, but I did desreve it, Now that I look back on how I acted I realize I deserve this.
2007-03-11 11:44:56 · 12 answers · asked by CrazyChic86 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah he hurt me by saying he did not like me and AI did deserves to be called a *****, of course he did not like me when I was treating him badly.
2007-03-11 12:13:23 · update #1
If you really love him then you should write him a letter. that way he can read by himself, so he can read and think about what the letter says. Kind of souns as if he might not love you anymore. If he did, he should've understood that you weren't being yourself for whatever reason. He should've support you and tried to help you. No matter how you acted you do not deserve to be hurt by anyone. What he should have done was talk to you about how you were treating him. If he really loved you, he would've been there for you and not used you not being yourself as an excuse for breaking up with you. You should try to work things out and get back with him, but don't force it. if he doesn't want to be with you, then move on. Enjoy your life.
2007-03-19 10:10:14 · answer #1 · answered by mrkramer5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are very simple. Fighting is never good in a relationship. He broke up with you for a reason. Dont take all the blame for a relationship not working. It takes two people to make a relationship and two people to ruin it. If someone takes the easy way out by breaking up with you then they were not willing to put the time and energy in to make it last.
If he truelly loved you and you are meant to be together he may just need a cooling off period.
Look at what was going on in your life to make you not behave like yourself. If what you were going through can be worked on on your end work it out and show him you are back to your usual self.
Guys sometimes do not understand the emotional side of women. They jump ship when we act psycho-emotional.
I wish you luck.
P.S
Give him enough space to miss you.
2007-03-19 18:39:40 · answer #2 · answered by kuriousqt_73 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it sucks, but take it as a learning experience and move on. No one ever deserves to be hurt. Some things just are not meant to be. I know it hurts now, but in the end you will feel better. A relationship that consists of nothing but fighting is not good and unfortunately once you've gotten to that point in your relationship, there really is no miracle band-aid that will fix that. An ex is an ex for a reason. Take what you've learned and apply it to the next, even better relationship.
Good luck, sweetie.
2007-03-19 18:48:43 · answer #3 · answered by gloriakdelgado 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all, he's going to need some time to cool off. Leave him alone! then did you have a stormy relationship for a long time? If you did and he was telling you that he didn't like it and giving you chances to stop treating him mean, and you kept doing it. It could be just like he said, and you've lost your last chance. He won't trust you anymore to behave, he'll think that you will just be nice for awhile, then start the meaness all over again. And you probably would.
now you have to ask yourself WHY you were treating him that way in the 1st place, and the next time you find someone that you really care about, treat them the way you would like to be treated yourself, and you'll do ok.
good luck
2007-03-19 18:51:36 · answer #4 · answered by JEANNE B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"He hurt me, but I did deserve it"
That is not a healthy statement. No one ever DESERVES to be hurt by someone they love. Anyone who intentionally hurts you does NOT love you.
Take a step back and take care of yourself for a while. Don't jump into another relationship right away and defiantly DON'T get back with this guy. The relationship isn't good for either one of you and will almost certainly result in more pain at a later date.
Move on, you deserve better!
2007-03-11 19:08:41 · answer #5 · answered by mylitla2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry darling but people make mistakes and you made a big one.Didnt you see it coming? Dont cry over something gone, instead use it to your advantage. If he wants to get back give him a chance but never beg or lower yourself to a guy, i mean he did dump you for a reason and even if he does get back to you he wont love you he will only get back with you because he pities you or he cant find anyone. Dont forget there are lots of fish in the sea.
Good luck'
PS: dont forget a person makes mistakes to learn from them and not to end his/her life when one is made.
2007-03-19 08:03:59 · answer #6 · answered by Lola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure you are not letting him be cruel to you
but....I would wait a couple more days to let him miss you and then call him but dont pressure him to get back together. Just say hey and you miss him etc. feel him out and see what he is saying and you could tell him you have had time to think about how you had been treating him and your sorry. but again dont push it or he will get aggravated.
good luck
2007-03-19 15:02:20 · answer #7 · answered by jon jon's girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww.... I know how hard it is, i'm soo sorry.
I think that you should not call him, he'll just gt more aggravated and might not even let you explain yourself. Rather, you should write him a letter and tell everything you meant to say. This really works. He'll be able to read it all at once, and you will not be "interrupted". Do not write e-mails... just do it in handwritting (it's more personal)
Hope this helps... Best of luck, sweetheart
P.S. please, answer my most recent question too. Yeah.. we all have "guys problems"... grr... i really need help. Thanks :)
2007-03-11 18:52:54 · answer #8 · answered by ---- 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should try and let him be incontrol of the relationship, he is a man and they feel as if they have the big pants, so let him. fighting- i think that how ever a fight acores yall should talk and both should listen to each other, let him talk first, listen to what he has to say, make eye contact, and ask for advice on how to change. sweet talk him and show alot of inosence.
2007-03-19 13:34:18 · answer #9 · answered by stallion ma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys do not know how to respond to emotional outbursts. It's a big problem between men and women. Say you're sorry and tell him you understand why he is so upset and could he please forgive you. If he doesnt then you have no choice but to wait or move on.
2007-03-19 17:00:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋