Basically i absolutely loved a girl and hoped and hoped she would feel something, as I could see a relationship might work. I wanted this more than anything and basically have never felt this strongly towards someone. She knew how I felt and in the end It didn't work out. She subtely said no and now she wants to be good friends. What do I do? Won't there always be jealously and attraction from my side?
2007-03-11 11:31:43 · 7 answers · asked by teflon88 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be friends with her. it's your only choice right about now. Continue being yourself and maybe she will fall for you later.
2007-03-11 11:35:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you were disappointed. Nothing stings as much as unrequited love.
You need to respect her decision and move on. Try not to hold out hope because you may miss someone else that would be even better for you. Holding onto that hope could also ruin a friendship with this girl too.
Yes, it will be awkward for you to begin with. But, if you really like this girl than I think you need to give it a shot. Isn't having her as a friend better than not having her at all?
I think the best way to make it work is to have boundaries. Keep it friendly but not too friendly. Don't be the boy she runs to when others kick her down. Don't be the fall guy. Don't ask after her love life and don't let her nose about in yours. Keep it light and simple. When you start to blur the lines it will get messy and end in tears.
Yep, I know from experience.
2007-03-11 18:41:37 · answer #2 · answered by Meg D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yea there will be jealousy trust me. I was like this with a guy that im now best friends with. He loved me and i didnt see him like that. But when we didnt talk for a long time and i matured more i started to have feelings for him. now hes in a relationship and im jealous as ever when i see them together. he says he still loves me but hes with her. so you never know it could all back fire on her like it did to me.
2007-03-11 18:37:52 · answer #3 · answered by Nena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be friends. It won't work with you feeling resentful and jealous.
Cut off all contact until you get over her, and meet someone else, and don't feel anything for her.
She's just not into you.
2007-03-11 18:35:59 · answer #4 · answered by Fabulously Broke in the City 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, chances are, if you guys become friends, it might be harder for you to get over he, and then when she starts seeing someone, you will get pissed, she wont understand why, blah blah blah...
my advice is that you guys stay friends, you dont want to throw all you have away, but not close ones at all until you are over her.
2007-03-11 18:39:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if i was you then i would become very good friends with her. because friends tend to become more then friends (if you know). or she is just playing hard to get
2007-03-11 18:36:18 · answer #6 · answered by monika g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with the flow
2007-03-11 18:35:28 · answer #7 · answered by {Soulja_Boy'z_#1_Wifey} 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋