I dated this guy for awhile and fell desperatly in love with him. He broke up with me for another girl who he said he loved but she broke up with him because she only wants to be friends. Its only been about three weeks and I'm desperate to have him back because I do love him but I don't know how he feels. Should I just get it over with and tell him this or go on with my life?
He broke my heart but I am willing to forgive and forget but I don't want my heart broken again if I take him back. I keep reminding myself that it could go one of two ways: he will either come back or he won't. I'm trying to prepare myself for both. Should I save him and myself some trouble and just tell him?
2007-03-11 11:10:17 · 20 answers · asked by p_shell1987 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah, I agree I he could do it again but Doesn't every person deserve a second chance?
2007-03-11 13:38:31 · update #1
I think if you feel the need to tell him then tell him. However, the truth is he may want to be with you again but there is the possibility that he could leave you for someone else again and that would hurt even more the second time. But there is a possibility that you two may get back together and live happily. Then you can not tell him and move on, wondering "what if I would have told him" or moving on thinking " he can't hurt me anymore because I won't go back". I think you should go on your strongest impulse and realizing the possibility of anything occurring. If telling him is what feels right, tell him the worst thing is he can say he doesn't feel the same for you but then you can move on. The best is that he wants to try again but then something may come up in your relationship, you may even find someone else. Do what feels right and prepare for all. Good Luck!
2007-03-11 11:22:58 · answer #1 · answered by mamashortydoowop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is way I see it: He left you for someone else and probably because he didn't love you anymore. Now he is being hurt and very confused. I dont know if he likes you still but if he does, he will come crawling back. Give it time I would say; if he comes back-its meant to be. If he doesn't- then its not. Think of how awkward it would be to tell him you love him still and he is completely over you? that is the worst case senario. Try to feel him out first and see if you get any hints....but in the end, you can only do what you feel is right.
2007-03-11 11:17:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is best for him to think about things, what he did and what he lost because of it. Let him come on his own. That way he will feel the need to apologize and make it right with you. You don't want him to choose you because you are better than having no one. You want to be first choice. He needs to first decide if you are. Hold you head high, be nice, but wait for him to make the first move. If you make the first move and go after him, he may repeat the scene with the next girl that gets his attention. He has to know that having you for his girl is the real prize. That you can go on with life, that others like you, and you like yourself because you are worth having for a friend. He needs to recognize your value, so place a high value on your heart, ok?
2007-03-11 11:19:19 · answer #3 · answered by Sherry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him for good. 3 weeks ago he broke ur heart, and disrespcted u. He doesnt deserve u and u deserve way better. Find a guy that will ALWAYS love u and treat u right. He obviously doesnt love u or he wouldnt have left u in the first place....so y waste ur time on some1 who doesnt love u. Even if he says he does love u his actions tell a different story
2007-03-11 11:15:41 · answer #4 · answered by mmmmmmm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be just as stuck as you if I were in your shoes. On one hand, you don't want to pass up what could be a wonderful relationship just because of the negative things that happened in the past. On the other hand, how wonderful will it be REALLY, when they guy will break up with you at any time just because they "love" another woman?
I have no solid answer for you, just wanted to weigh out the options in writing, and wish you the best of luck with the situation. :)
2007-03-11 11:14:18 · answer #5 · answered by chaotic_mum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think i'm in the same situation. So i'lll talk from my expiernce-
He broke my heart but i forgave him.
The more i ignored him the more he wanted me, and now that i fell in love with him again and told him i love him, he acts as if he doesnt care about me. and right now i'm thinking i'll let him go very soon. Coz if if left once he'll do it again no matter what he tells u.
2007-03-11 11:22:16 · answer #6 · answered by stargirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were in your situation I would tell him you want him back. You are already preparing for the wortst so you might as well tell him, and if he still likes you then you can tell him you dont want your heart broken again unless you are both sure.
2007-03-11 11:16:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with most of what "TEAM" girl said. He broke up with you for someone else. Even if he came back I think he'd do it again and that would always be in the back of your mind every time he wasn't with you. I'd move on as hard as that is.
Hang in there kido. Good Luck
2007-03-11 11:24:44 · answer #8 · answered by blastabuelliac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl....LEAVE HIM ALONE....to him you are the bus that he gets on when the other buses pass him by. If he left you for another girl then that meant he is not that into you. And trust...he will leave you again. Save yourself the tears on your pillow and the dram and run quickly to the nearest cute guy that is so into you that he would never leave you for another girl. Your are the best thing and this guy just doesn't know what he is missing. Leave him alone!!!!
2007-03-11 11:15:05 · answer #9 · answered by Simone M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel because if you don't then you will always wonder "what if". But don't get your hopes up too high just in case he doesn't feel the same. But at least you can say "I tried". And then if he doesn't feel the same get on with your life and find someone better for you and someone that won't hurt you. GOOD LUCK!!!!!
2007-03-11 11:15:19 · answer #10 · answered by lwaite74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋