You say I am to picky. Every relationship I had it was something I forced myself to do. They seemed like the right fit for me so I went out with them. I ended up being miserable and they eventually figured out what was going on. How am I supposed to stop being picky. Forcing myself doesn't work.
So now to the girls I like who don't like me(I can't get a first or second date with). I am working out everyday. I am attractive, smart and funny. I am thirty one and can't find a date I like. It would be great to know how to improve myself - buy a better car (i drive 2000camry), become more assertive(where them down), move out of my parents house (I live there only to save money. I lived on my own for years and moved back in several years ago because I had to take an entry level job that payed near poverty level. I have been financially able to move out for several years but like the money i save), or should I get a hair transplant (slightly thinning). Help!!!!
2007-03-11 11:02:54 · 10 answers · asked by lend322 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dude... I know how you feel.
There is something you can do, but it requires deep commitment in learning how to completely change the negatives in your life into positives (personality, lifestyle, and attitude). Look up David DeAngelo on google and go to his site. Subscribe to his newsletters and read them for a while. You don't need to buy a thing. It will show you things and explain EVERYTHING at a pace in which you can integrate into your life.
Hint: Notice what you do around the uglies vs. the hotties. You need to do those things EXACTLY to the hotties. The being too comfortable and showing that she doesn't rule over you and that she isn't THAT important will get you FAR.
Fatoodles,
Franklin
2007-03-11 11:12:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the never ending problem of getting two hearts to meet at the same time and feel the same thing for each other. I have recently been talking with several people about this exact problem, and I am sorry to say, there is no answer we were able to come up with. It is a matter of fate in most cases and the ones where it isn't, then it is a matter of luck. So, good luck and may the fates be with you!
BTW, living with your parents at 31, though beneficial for your bank account, does not inspire most women with a sense that you are your own man, can take care of yourself much less them. You might want to change that situation asap.
Save your money on the hair. If they don't like you because of that, then they are not worth the effort and are shallow. Or go totally bald. Many women love that!
2007-03-11 18:18:07 · answer #2 · answered by Pierre Patelin Longshanks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the same way... The boys who like me are complete morons and the ones that I like are either taken or don't seem to respond in the same lovable manner. I've resorted to the option of waiting for a better match without desperately trying to be with someone just for the sake of saying that I'm not single. I'd rather pick a great date than make compromises and be bored to death as a result.
2007-03-11 18:10:08 · answer #3 · answered by psheshek 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You aren't picky, you just know what you want, and what you want, you should get. There is someone for everyone and you will meet a person that likes you as much as you like them, in time, guaranteed! As far as your hair is concerned, to the right woman, hair is a nonentity, so if you get hair transplants, don't do it for any other reason or person other than yourself. Again, you will meet someone, probably when you least expect it. Best of luck to you!
2007-03-11 18:09:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude... your not being picky.
Really just go with the flow dude, just go out and have fun & enjoy being single cause sooner or later you'll attached.
You just gotta be patient cause shes probably looking 4 u but your too busy wondering where she is that youve missed her. So for now hang out with mates and have good time with them. And let her come to you 4 a change.
Oh and be yourself
2007-03-11 18:13:58 · answer #5 · answered by ¸¸.•*´`*♥ Selah 21 ¸¸.•*´`*♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Taking your word for granted that you're smart, funny and attractive...
I'd say you're just picking the wrong girls. Not that you're picky, per se, but you're picking the wrong types of girls.
There are girls out there that are beautiful, smart and funny, who are desperate for guys to ask them out. And there are girls out there who are also beautiful, smart and funny, but are not desperate for guys to ask them out.
I'd suggest moving out of your parents' house as a start, only because you're 31. Think about George from Seinfeld, still living at home with his parents. He can't get girls to come over because they think he's a loser.
You may not be a loser, but being at home shows girls that you can't be independent and on your own. I also think: Mama's boys when I think of guys at home with their parents.... I hate to be judgemental, but it's true.
If you have enough money saved up, buy a condo or SOMETHING, and that'll show financial responsibility.
Lastly, confidence. You don't SOUND confident. I don't mean be arrogant or have an ego so big that it can't balance on your head, but be assured with yourself, and don't sound desperate.
You're also looking for TOOLS to get girls with, but getting girls is not about using tools, it's about being yourself and attracting them with your personality and charm. Lesser guys have gotten dates, because they're quietly confident in themselves. Not loud, and brash.
2007-03-11 18:09:51 · answer #6 · answered by Fabulously Broke in the City 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just hang in there, it will even out. Sooner or later you find girls you like that like you and vice versa. Good Luck.
2007-03-11 18:07:17 · answer #7 · answered by blastabuelliac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well when i was in your situation(but with boys)i made a quiz like deal to see who i really liked i used tally marks to see who i was in love with.
2007-03-11 18:11:08 · answer #8 · answered by alex_algiere@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get sum new clothez and get a makeover and maybe she will lik you
2007-03-11 18:05:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
EVERY PUSS Y IS THE SAME JUST FCUK IT
2007-03-11 18:07:03 · answer #10 · answered by kako u 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋