To paint you a picture. I am 22 (Female) and I live with my boyfriend (21) he and his father own their own import and export comapny along with god knows how many other companies. We live very comfortably and live in an apartment together. Money is not an issue...although it doesnt rule our lives. I thought we were very happy but recently he has become very bad tempered and has shouted at me for the first time. He is very stressed and works nearly 24 hours a day. He has also recently developed a couple of small white patches on the back of his head in his hair...I think this is due to stress His father has recently said that he may retire in a couple of years so god only know what will happen then. Every time I tery to talk to him he clams up and says he is fine and he is making all the money he is for out future.
To top this all off I found a few pills in a jacket pocket of his whihc I have learnt are in fact speed.
2007-03-11 10:58:05 · 8 answers · asked by moon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds like money is more an issue then you think.
He is overworking himself to the point he is taking drugs to keep up.
Youre in for some misery if you dont handle this problem now.
2007-03-11 11:42:56 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is obviously very stressed and is taking speed so that he can keep up with his crazy job, this is not a good way to solve a problem because if he keeps on working like this and taking drugs then it can be detrimental for his health, and of course when people are unhappy and stressed it makes them mean and grumpy people!
What needs to be done is the father needs to hire more workers because the amount of work your boyfriend is doing is too much for one person. In the meantime you need to continue being supportive, but make him realize that yeah money is great, but what is the point of making money if your life is miserable? He needs to hire someone to help to alleviate the workload, or quit and find another job.
2007-03-11 11:18:06 · answer #2 · answered by That Girl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My friend and her husband just got out of a high pressure family-owned bakery business. They spent years trying to keep up with the pressure of it. They have been burned out for a long, long time. IT JUST ISN'T WORTH IT! I hope he will come to his senses and either get out of the business and get a 40 hr/week job, OR, tell his dad that he can't work this hard anymore and he will work XX amount of hours a week - but that is it. He has to slow down and have a life or he will spiral down at this rate. I hope everything goes well, good luck!
2007-03-11 12:44:56 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I am sorry to hear all that!
Perhaps you can locate a counselor you could talk to who deals in relationships. It sounds like your boyfriend may not have time or be willing to go, but that doesn't stop you from seeking some help/advice on the best way to handle this situation.
2007-03-11 11:02:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he wont stop and smell the roses? thats too bad. he needs to get hit on the head if all he does is work...when will he enjoy the fruits of his labor? when its too late! he will exhaust himself to the point of poor judgement and eventually failure.
stand by your man in encouragement and make the home life a peaceful happy place to come home to with creative ideas.
not a good time to have kids unless you want to raise them by yourself if he's always tired and edgy and possibly on drugs for stamina. living for the future all the time is not necessarily living in the present that's for sure. good luck. peace
2007-03-11 11:10:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is in a downward spiral and I'm not sure you can help him. He must feel a lot of pressure at work and will probably not listen to you. You must decide if you want to be there when this all hits the fan because believe me it well.
2007-03-11 11:04:35 · answer #6 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to get him help the combo of speed and stress is very dangerous. please don't ignore this it could mean his life
2007-03-11 12:50:37 · answer #7 · answered by drfmommyof2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so what did you want to do??
2007-03-11 11:01:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋