Anyway, this girl lives about 30 mins away. And his friends live in the same town as this girl. And whenever he goes to his dad's, he visits his friends (the one's who are trying to work with me to get him away from her). Anyway, he will go and see her as well. I know that he still has strong feeling for her, but he still loves me. I can see it in his eyes. I know he's torn. I have grown so close to him that I want to try and help him. I know for sure that he never had a physical relationship with her, but sometimes I worry that when he goes to see her when he's at his dad's, that he may end up doing things with her. I'm so worried it's hard for me to sleep at night. She doesn't want him back. I know that for a fact. But she likes to have all the control over him. I just need some help on how to get him to realize what she has over him. And that she's controlling him. I want him to see that I am much better for him, and that I can treat him the way he really deserves to be treated.
2007-03-11 10:42:50 · 9 answers · asked by cherrybomb6589 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get over it and find someone else.
2007-03-11 10:46:18 · answer #1 · answered by acuity007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you should find a new boyfriend. He has a few problems that should be sending you some major alarms.
He is letting her control him, or he is still involved with her and whoever is telling you that she has no interest is lying to you in either case.
The fact that he goes to see her is very disrespectful to you, and you should be asking yourself why you are putting up with it. Later in life these types of things can lead to cheating.
The fact that she has the ability to control him means that he has no backbone, and that will create other problems as well.
The best thing for you to do at this point is to get away from him and find a guy who will be completely faithful to you without bringing in other girls from the past.
2007-03-11 17:53:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I guess your wrong on the physical part because he he hasn't gotten any from her he wouldn't be this way. SHe is probably letting him get it when she sees him so he can keep him within arms reach, in case he would try not to see her a gain. But if he really loved you he would be with you all the time not going to her. SO you need a reality check and tell him her or me an djust watch who he picks and I bet he won't pick you. Kick him to the curb and move on he's a loser who likes to be played with.
2007-03-11 17:50:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
once again he told her he loved her after 5 months, and you after 2 months, he does not love you as much as that might hurt, he does not understand the meaning of love. And you say you are afraid he may doing something with her, so in your heart you know he is not in love with you. She can not force him to want her, and he does, she is being used as a excuse, she maybe part of the problem yes, but he is allowing her to be a issue in your relationship. he makes the choice to go see her, answer he calls, talks to her, and puts her ahead of you, why cant you see this
2007-03-11 17:51:31 · answer #4 · answered by jessica d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he still has feeling for that girl and isn't ready to commit to you, no-one is twisting his arm to go there, give him some credit for having his own mind. She's isn't the one who's controlling, his feelings for her control him. As for what he does when he's there, --well, you better find one else.
2007-03-11 18:00:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't stop anyone for doing anything THEY choose to do, thats the deal and with men, you can say anything you want but if you try to get him away from her guess what he will see her more trust me..so what you do is this, invite her over for dinner with him see how it goes if you see some sparks between him and her, its time to let go, don't get yourself hurt more than you can handle
2007-03-11 17:49:22 · answer #6 · answered by Gina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is gain his respect and demonstrate your value to him, but you must have absolute confidence in yourself - if you don't, there will never be any respect. Do this, and he will see what's happening.
2007-03-11 17:48:06 · answer #7 · answered by thedavecorp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is up to your b/f to stay away from her..
If he won't stay away from her...
Break-up with him and find a new b/f..
2007-03-11 17:47:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him an ultimatum. threaten to leave. just say "it's either her or me" If you don't, it could drag on forever.
2007-03-11 17:48:23 · answer #9 · answered by Yucks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋