I am not sending out save the date cards so I can save some money. Everyone on the invitation list is family. My wedding is on June 9th, and his family is on my case telling me I need to call everyone and personally invite them now so they can get off work. I think they are being a little overbearing and that if I send out invitations eight weeks prior, that will give them plenty of time to ask off. They say I am not being thoughtful and that out of town family members feel that they are not included in the guest list because I haven't contacted them yet. Who's right?
2007-03-11 10:41:40 · 12 answers · asked by wildflower12 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Invitations can be a difficult thing ... but here is a general rule of thumb. If you have family/friends coming in from out of state, you should send those invites at least 10 weeks before the wedding, so they have time to make arrangements, etc. If your guest list is mostly coming from in state, then 6-8 weeks is plenty of time to send the invites. Don't let his family stress you out ... 6-8 weeks is customary and will be plenty of time for them to make arrangments. Calling guests is not necessary unless you've sent out all of the invites (say 150) and only 50 have come back. Make sure you get your answers in a timely manner so all your vendors are on the same page. Things will be fine!!!
2007-03-11 13:20:58 · answer #1 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's traditional to send out wedding invites 6-8 weeks before the wedding, but because people's lives are so hectic these days it's a good idea to get in touch before then. The aim of save the date cards is to make sure people know they're invited to your wedding and to make sure they keep the day free/arrange time off work, so that's exactly what you need. However, if you want to save money then why not email your guests instead of sending cards - this would be cheaper and less time consuming than sending cards or calling round.
2007-03-11 18:43:27 · answer #2 · answered by m_g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that 8 weeks is ok! I've heard all kinds of time frames though. 6 weeks all the way up to a couple of months. I am sending out my invitations at the begining of June, to be returned by the end of July. The wedding is in mid September. I am doing it a bit earlier only because all his famliy will have to travel. So it'll be 3 1/2 months before the wedding that I send them out. If people live locally, I think it's cool. Btw, that sucks that everyone is being totally overbearing though! I feel for ya!
2007-03-11 21:10:12 · answer #3 · answered by Kass 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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"Invitations should be mailed six weeks prior to the event. People planning a summer or holiday wedding often choose to send Save the Date cards as many as four months before the event. These cards are especially helpful for out-of-town guests."
Hope this helps!!
2007-03-11 17:50:43 · answer #4 · answered by ksgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry hon, but they are. It is a bit deal for company's to arrange for employees getting time off and some of the company's are very strick with boudaries and have to give two months notice so its not you or them its how they have to deal with their employers. Call them all now. Send the invitations out 6 months in advance normally. This is to ensure that everyone can make arrangements it not just family its the families spouses and kids and everything. Take care Heather
2007-03-11 17:48:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are. This Save the Date thing is a new "tradition". Before that, people just made their reservations when they got their invitations 8 weeks prior to the event.
However, to save face, it might be ok to send a "save the date" e-mail if you have everyone's addresses.
2007-03-11 21:47:44 · answer #6 · answered by Level Headed, I hope 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everywhere I checked it was best to send them out 6 weeks for local guests and 8 weeks for out of town. Your best bet would be to send a save the date letter to your guests. This way your guests are aware of the date and thy can plan with work or other activities they hve planned. I did this myself. I bought nice linen paper and created my own save the date letter. There are sites that have a ton of stuff for just this purpose. i hope this helps!
2007-03-11 19:28:02 · answer #7 · answered by Nicole L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Early is always better. Depending on the job, 8 weeks may not be early enough to ask off. At my work, if you want a peek vacation day (such as June or around holidays), you have to ask the first of the year. If they are shorthanded around a certian time of year they may need very advance notice to be able to get the day off.
2007-03-11 18:08:20 · answer #8 · answered by layla983 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think 8 weeks is TONS of time for them to make arrangements and to take off time from work. if other family members are so concerned they could call these individuals and let them know the date before invitations go out. but yes, 8 weeks is plenty early!
2007-03-11 17:46:49 · answer #9 · answered by kerri c 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Brides magazine says two months before your big day and so does both of my wedding planning books.
2007-03-11 18:32:04 · answer #10 · answered by CJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋