I split wit the love of my life 5 months ago,we were really in love. She dumped me cus she thought i didnt trust her cus of a message she got,it was sent by my sis but i took the blame cus of family probs in r house. I near died wit a wee prob and my mum had a cancer scare. She was upset i didnt tell the truth. She went in2 depression wen we split. I wanted 2 tell her but she wudnt speak 2 me, she emailed me recently,shes wit a new guy,she told me she likes him but not in love yet,she still loves me and always will. She said she cant go bak 2 me cus she wont trust me after this but wants me as a friend. Wat do i do cus i really love her,id rather b died than live witout her, i know i can win her trust round,quite quickly,please help me guys. Ive 2 emil her bak any tips???? Ive found out her new fella is only 16 and shes a 20 year old uni student,r friends r disgusted in her and find it sick but i still love her.
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I sent her alot of letters and emails. I have wrote another letter but i am afraid to send it in case it makes me look obsessed. advice please. should i send it???
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has it beenn 2 long??
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please give me some advice folks,this has been driving me mad for months, the pain aint easing
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all her friends r mine and we met at a party a few months ago, when she saw i was upset she started crying, we cant avoid each other, i love her and its going on 2 long, plz help folks
2007-03-11 10:36:35 · 6 answers · asked by Paddy I 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just tell her that you are truly and deeply sorry for not telling her what was going on and it will never happen again and tell her that you love her very very much and never meant to hurt her.
2007-03-11 10:44:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds confused. So do you. When two people split up, I don't agree with getting back together. Here's why: You either split up because one of you was mad about something they shouldn't have been mad about, which is cause for concern. If you get back together, chances are almost certain it will happen again. Plus one of the two people involved will always be wary, neither person will be comfortable in the relationship.
Or, you split up for a valid reason, in which case, you shouldn't be together, because there was a valid reason to be apart.
It hurts to lose someone. You put so much energy and time and emotion into one thing, and then it doesn't last forever. And it's hard, but that's no reason to get back into a situation that is only going to cause both of you heartache.
At the moment, she doesn't know what she wants or really who she is. It's a bad time to get involved. If she makes contact, you can be there for her, help her through whatever issues she is having. But I wouldn't try to initiate that contact, at least not for the time being. Sorry for your situation, man. Been there done that. My ex-wife just yesterday started calling me to talk and be friends again. It's hard. So I know what you're going through.
2007-03-11 10:45:10 · answer #2 · answered by Godfather76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to go and talk to her. she is at the age where commitment is wanted and she is gettin ready to settle down. she isnt gonna get that from a 16 year old that is probably still in high school. ovbiously she does still love you and does want to be with you, but she is scared. tell her everything about the e mail and just everything that has been going on. if she really does love you then she will understand. obviously this is a girl that you could see yourself with for a long time. if you really love her then she needs to know everything and you need to gain her trust back. trust is a big deal in a relationship and she wants that trust to be back, but it is hard for her. just tell her EVERYTHING and how much she means to you. GOOD LUCK!!
2007-03-11 10:46:47 · answer #3 · answered by [[baby girl]] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how u feel!!My ex had the same prob and I kno he still cares about me just by tellin me that and we back 2gether.I assure u sumthin will work out!!
2007-03-11 10:41:18 · answer #4 · answered by Colts Chick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okokok....I sayy u should take her on a very "friendly" date, when you notice she is comfortable, gently tell her the truth, EVERYTHING ur sister sending it and all, even your mom. she'll take u back, Im almost sure =]
2007-03-11 10:41:50 · answer #5 · answered by Vanessa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget her!
2007-03-11 10:43:12 · answer #6 · answered by Vikki[Rawhr] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋