We just had our first lil one 2 months ago and she had one already this was our first valentines(long story) and we didnt even go anywhere and her birthday is this week and she wants to go out with her friends, im not mad but its like we haven't been alone for even an hour since she got pregnant, is she playin with me to just keep me around or what? I don't understand we live together now i moved outta my apartment to move with her (longer story) and we sleep in the same bed but i feel like she doesnt even have interest in me anymore anytime we get a chance to have free time for ourselves and i ask if wants to have lunch, dinner or anything theres always an excuse i;m almost ready to give up trying to put the spark back in our relationship, we don't have sex and barely kiss anymore should i try to still make this work? (im goona take care of my son regardless)we are supposed to get married! please no answers about birth control or condoms too late for that i already know
2007-03-11 10:01:01 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is her 2nd child I just had my first with her
2007-03-11 10:13:20 · update #1
its her birthday weekend and she hasn't went out since she got pregnant 11months ago
2007-03-11 10:14:22 · update #2
its really really hard when youve had your first baby..not only the things that you describe about yourself, but she is going through things you dont know and cant understand. try talking about it. sometimes you become a mother and absolutely hate it until you get your confidence. she may be feeling like that. also, theres nothing more exhausting (not just tiring, completely exhausting) than having a baby. if she feels like she wants to go out and get away, you need to let her do that without feeling like youre going to be mad. she obviously needs a mental break. i remember actually HATING my husband after i had my first child. i felt like he didnt help, was worried about meeting his selfish ends rather than understand what i was going through. talk and LISTEN. she may be having a bout of depression, maybe she needs to see her doc. anyway, now is definately not the time for worries about yourself. sorry, personal sacrifice in favor of the family. part of being a father. period.
2007-03-11 10:10:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's just worn out after all that taking care of the baby. Let her have some time to spend with her friends, but if she keeps this up for more than a month, talk to her about your worries and see what she says.
2007-03-11 10:06:26 · answer #2 · answered by julia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't stop trying. I honestly don't know what else to tell you but i really think you should keep trying to work it out. A happy marriage could be the best thing that ever happened to you don't let that slip away. You can always try talking to her, just tell her you want to bridge the gap that you feel has come between you.
2007-03-11 10:07:22 · answer #3 · answered by missi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about this. Don't assume she knows maybe she thinks you aren't interested. Post partum is weird for a woman. Do not get married until you two see a counsler. Hope this helps.
2007-03-11 10:05:57 · answer #4 · answered by chunkysmom3502 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are the stupidest woman in the international. i do no longer care if he was once a baby Molester. in case you reside with him you're gonna be very sorry. No woman of their stunning recommendations might EVER pass with a guy who grew to become into in reformatory for being a baby Molester. think he went back and molested your infants what are you gonna do then? i'm sorry you're stupid for staying with a former baby Molester. i understand that's the previous yet I nevertheless does no longer do. i wouldn't in any respect pass with woman who grew to become right into a former baby Molester. that isn't for me.
2016-10-18 03:20:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes! she wants to go out with her friends? a two month old at home??
oh my...!! that's really not a good sign, nevermind the sex thing!
the mother of your child is in need of serious responsibility check.
try couples counseling asap. parenting classes. oh my! good luck dear. peace
2007-03-11 10:11:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well since shes pregnant her hormones are out-a-wack so you should just stick with her, maby you should tell her how you feel, if ur gonna get married u both should be totaly open to each other. if she gets mad for any reason and blows up at you dont blow back. just give her space and sort it out calmly.
2007-03-11 10:08:45 · answer #7 · answered by kirstie v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you living in a tree! The spark has come and gone for you and her. Don't know why she keeps you around but it's obviously not for love.
2007-03-11 10:06:50 · answer #8 · answered by solotrovo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she has lost interest. how about a vacation away from the kids (but wait a few months till the baby is a little older)? it may be enough to spark the interest back into it. please don't get married.
2007-03-11 10:05:59 · answer #9 · answered by anonymous 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get some counseling! If she wants out you are SOL, but maybe you can still make it work. Good luck...
2007-03-11 10:05:24 · answer #10 · answered by silentnonrev 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋