Is it too soon to ask Best Man?

Question

We are getting married July 2008.
My fiance has decided who he want as Best Man but has yet to ask him, even though he has been out with him a few times!
Why isn't he asking him yet...is it too soon?

Answer 1

I would say yes, because, if he's only been out a few times with the guy, a best man is supposed to be just that "the best man", the one that helps and takes care of him and supports him, someone who is there for him and really knows him...sounds to me like if they only have been out a few times, they can't possibly know one another that much for him to be a best man, you guy would do better asking your dad if you want that or want to have someone that far off, if they havn't known one another and been best friends for long...I'd say wayyy to soon...he can always get a best man at the last minute, but, it's different for the girl, it's both your weddings, but, if you want your wedding to be perfect, and not have alot of things in between disappointing happen, don't let him ask him till at least six months before the wedding, or three even..it doesn't take that long to get a tux...

Answer 2

Remember we have expectations for our bridesmaids/maid of honor that men do not have. We want them to go shopping for dresses (cause we want to make sure they like/can afford their dress and we have a million choices). Maybe look at reception halls with us, help pick out invitations. Men don't have those expectations of their groomsmen.

A wedding is a Bride's Day and as much as we like the man being involved, he doesn't really care. Groomsmen don't vote on the reception hall. For the most part, the tuxes all look the same. They rent tux and show up. Thats basically it. They don't have duties to fullful. Plus you never see people having issues with groomsmen. You always read about brides having bridesmaids who cancel, or who they have to fire from the wedding b/c of problems. (and if you are picky like I was you want the same number bridesmaids as groomsmen)

You have enough on your mind with planning a wedding. Don't worry about your groom--he'll ask when he gets around to it and yeah anything more than a year out is a bit far. Even the best man only has to prepare a toast and plan a bachelor party--they don't need a year to do that. I just asked my husband and he said about 6 mo is probably the norm. Though he didn't ask ours until about 4-5 mo away.

So don't worry about him and go back to planning the wedding. Now a photographer and caterer for July....yeah that probably needs to be done roughly a year out.

Congratulations and good luck!

Answer 3

No, that is no longer. After 7 months of courting it fairly relies upon on the certain type of connection you've. in case you know your significant different to be tight fisted, 10 years of marriage might want to be too early to ask for money. If he's reasonably beneficiant, and your relationship customarily is flourishing, that would want to be adequate time. purely you could answer that query because you've the most expertise of your significant different. and those 2 guidelines may also help you settle on what to do. sturdy luck.

Answer 4

What does your fiance say? I personally see no problem going ahead & asking now rather than later. But at the same time your fiance may want to wait a while since it's over a year away.

Answer 5

I don't know why he is not asking the guy yet.

As soon as we set a date we asked the people we wanted in our wedding. We set the date Sept of last year for June 2008 and asked our family in Oct of last year.

There is no time like the present. the sooner the better.

Answer 6

Guys don't get as excited about these things as us women do. For planning purposes, I would be sure that he asks him at least 10-12 months before the wedding though. I would say to just let it go for now, but here in a few months, talk to your fiance and explain why he needs to get it done. Take care and congratulations!

Answer 7

You have plenty of time to pick your bridal party! Since you have over a year, there is no rush to start picking your attendants. Tackle the more important items, like choosing a ceremony and reception location and figuring out a budget. He will ask in time ... don't worry.

Answer 8

That depends on their relationship. If they're brothers or best friends than it might not need to be a big discussion. Has he told his groomsmen who they are? I wouldn't say it's too soon though. My bf has already asked his best friend to be his best man and we probably won't get engaged for another year. (already been dating for 4 yrs, waiting till we graduate from college)

Answer 9

I have noticed that guys are procrastinators. He will definitely ask him, for him probally asking him two months away would be sufficiant, guys for some reason work like that. If it were not for my "persistent asking my fiance would not have done anything yet, and our wedding is 4 months away.

Answer 10

Girls are different then guys... he might just want to wait until it gets closer which is a smart idea..... I can't tell you how many wedding I have been in with bridemaids backing out because they were ask 2 years before the wedding and then when it came to forking out money for dresses they were no where to be found.