Why are you against spanking?

Question

Please respond ONLY IF YOU ARE AGAINST SPANKING. Personally, I think spanking is good for the kid, as it teaches them that what they did is wrong. Why are you against it?

ONLY THOSE AGAINST SPANKING RESPOND! Please.

By the way, I am a 16 year old guy.

I was spanked when I was a kid. It taught me what I did was wrong.

Answer 1

WHOOOO said spanking is ABUSE?

Wise up!

Answer 2

I am against spanking because it teaches kids that violence it ok. Spanking is a violent act and when you do this to your kids it teaches them at if some one does something "wrong" or something that they do not like it would be appropriate to hit that person.

Answer 3

I am against spanking it doesnt teach the child what they did was wrong all it does is cause them physical harm. I was not spanked as a child and I have never spanked and will never spank my children. Children learn what they live and if they get hit everytime someone thinks they did something wrong whats to say that child wont turn around and hit others because they didnt like what the other kid did. When my child does something wrong she knows we do not raise our voice to her and we have NEVER hit her {or my stepdaughter} and I think telling a child you are disappointed in them has more of an impact then smacking one around


What I find is ironic is that 80% of violent criminals in our prison systems today were spanked as children, guess they didnt learn did they?! Or did they? Makes you go mmmm

Answer 4

Spanking is never good for a child, it teaches a child that hitting is okay and it is a proven fact that punishment is more effective then hitting.

Me , my sisters, and 5 of my cousins on my moms side were never hit and we all turned out FINE..My one cousin on my dads side was hit growing up and shes now a damn drug addict who thinks she can do whatever she wants, she was also always starting fights in school, I remember one day a girl attacked her in 6th grade and was ontop of her so I jumped on her and pulled her off, me and my cousin got sent to the office and when asked why she put her hands on people so much her response was "my parents hit me so whats the big damn deal"..That experience and seeing what she grew up to be made me against spanking.

Another reason I will never spank is because if a 18 year old goes and slaps a 17 year old it is assault so why should it be any diffrent when it comes to a parent hitting there child? I was also raised being taught to never hit someone smaller then me.

The way things are going within the next 10 years it is going to be against the law to put your hands on your child. You already can not use objects and can not leave a mark.

Answer 5

The only way that a spanking is called for is if it is done to protect the child. In other words, if a child runs across the street without listening to you, then a slight (and I mean slight) spanking will make the message stronger.

Also, it makes a difference if you are spanking in anger or in love. Spanking in anger is NEVER appropriate. It means you are out of control. Get back into control, and be calm before you dish out punishment.. a time-out is better.

Answer 6

Spanking sends the message to children that they are bad. It does not send the message that what they did was wrong. It should only be used in extreme cases, such as the child running away from a parent in a parking lot or bolting into the street. The goal of discipline is to teach right from wrong. Good behavior from undesirable. Spanking does not teach this. It only teaches the child that they are bad.

Answer 7

I'm against spanking if people use it as discipline and not punishment. There is a difference. I'm against spanking if an adult does it out of anger because that is abuse. There are many alternatives to spanking and I strongly feel those should be used first and if you are firm with the rules and discipline you should never have to spank.

Answer 8

I believe it is MORALLY wrong for one human being to strike another. Some people say spanking is not hitting, but it cannot be done without hitting.
Think about this: If another adult did to you exactly what you do when you spank a child, would you think it an acceptable act?

I would bet you would file assault charges against that individual! So how can it possibly be acceptable to to the same thing to a vulnerable child.

I will now pass on the most important advice I was ever given:

NEVER, EVER HURT A CHILD!

You're welcome.

Answer 9

I am against this for a few reasons Firstly I try to teach my children not to hit so why then would i hit my child that is really dumb and children learn by example. Secondly i think its really lazy parenting it seems if all else fails then spank parents should use the old grey matter talk to your child set boundries and have clear consequences. I have 3 children and never raised a hand to them they are all very happy well behaved children even strangers have commented on them in shops.

Answer 10

I feel that spanking only encourages children to hit. It teaches them that hitting is okay and that when someone does something you don't like you should hit them.

Answer 11

In my opinion, I think spanking is humiliating and demeaning. It also teaches that violence is an effective way to solve problems. For me, I've learned what kind of consequences are most effective for my child - specifically, she responds to being isolated (time out in her room), and to losing privileges (toys, favorite pair of shoes, TV time, upcoming events). So that is the kind of discipline that I use.

She's super well behaved 90% of the time, and my friends even consider me strict. So obviously, it can be done without raising your hand. And that's how I choose to do it.