i really wanna do it but i cant?

Question

i really wanna go the full way with my bf but im worried that once we do it he will go an cheat on me as all the other guys ive been with have. he says he loves me and we have been waiting and he said he wait more. my body and hearts says express my love physically but my brain thinks back to the past. how can i get over these thoughts

i wanna point out im not a virgin

im 18 and i dont sleep with all the guys ive dated

Answer 1

Your boyfriend already seems a pretty decent person since you said that he said he can wait some more. This means he respects your opinions, and understands you.

If you still feel uncomfortable about it, it's alright to wait for a while. You need to build up the trust between you and your boyfriend first.

Answer 2

Yeah, wait till you're married. Think about it, what does expressing your love physically really do for your relationship? Nothing. If you can get married without all of that stuff, you will be even more in love and you will know more surely that he is the right guy for you. "Physical love" can change a relationship into making you think differently than what you really feel. Most of the time, your thoughts are wrong.

Answer 3

I was the same way when my current boyfriend said he loved me. I waited a while and thought it over before I gave in. We are still happily together and I'm glad I finally did. If you choose to go ahead and "go all the way" be care and safe. That's all I can tell you. Hope you make a good choice.

Answer 4

Honey, if he says he can wait longer than he already has waited, I'm pretty sure you can go smex him and he'll stay with you. Confidence is key. Guys love confidence, so chin up and give him the best sex of his life. Don't worry too much about it. You'll be okay.

Answer 5

Well your heart and your haed are right not only will he cheat but he might just dump you once he gets what he wants. MAybe not but why risk it. Just give him some oral and make him happy. If he really loves you he will wait as long as you want to.

Answer 6

You didn't need to point out that you weren't a virgin.....it's obvious. It's your body, have a little respect for yourself. You don't need to sleep with every guy you go out with. If you don't respect yourself, your boyfriend (s) won't respect you either. Just curious.....how old are you?

Answer 7

living in the past isnt a good thing to do.... if you keep comparing your current relationship with past ones, you will not be giving your boyfriend a fair chance... if you continue to do this you will push people away from you rather than make them get closer to them.... stop living in the past

Answer 8

tell him u wont do it and if he cant accept it then u'll know it would have been like the past. if he does accept it and doesnt cheat then u know that he doesnt want u 4 ur body

Answer 9

omg. i almost know wut your going thru. i had this problem about two weeks ago. he was mai ex. and i really like him. he dumped me already three times before. and then i ditched skewl to be with mai bf...who dumped me two nites ago. so i had sex with mai ex. and it was mai first time. he pushed me into it. i said no. he kept pushing. if you really dont wanna loose it rite now...then dont. it just happened for me. i wasnt ready. but i stil like him so much. and then i got back with him yesterday. this all happened in less than three weeks. and see. dont let him push you into anything. not if your not ready. because we didnt use any protection and i really regret that. he already started seeing other chicks wen i wasnt around for him to ***.so if you do decide to..dont et him make you feel bad in anyway. go with your heart. and dont rush. just go on with life. your way. and dont think about the past. it just gets in the way of your entire future. it will be hard. but its just one of those things you have to do. gyud luck with that.♥

Answer 10

wait till your heart tell's you it's ok..you'll know when