long distance relationship. He works full time and i am a student. Despite this we still get to see each other a fair bit and i'm happy with the situation. We have been going out for 7 months now and whenever he is here i keep wanting to say i love you. I always chicken out, build up the courgage to do it again when i see him next then chicken out again. I know i feel it and i'm not chickening out coz i'm unsure of what he will say, i just dont really know how to put it, i've never been the first to say i love you. My question is, would it be really awful to say it for the first time over the phone? or would it be cute, if dont right and something to remember. any advice?? cheers x
2007-03-11 09:55:05 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hehe at some answers. specially David T, sounds a bit jaded. I know he's not a cheat, he's a real sweetie and i trust him completly, just for the record! if only i could get over my damned shyness.
2007-03-11 11:43:01 · update #1
Aww dont worry. Dont be afraid to tell how you feel for him. Since you guys have been for 7 months and never said "i love you" to each other yet, its the right time to finally say it! I think he feels the same way about you too, but he's afraid of what you might think if he says it to you. He might be waiting for you to say it for a long time, so just say it, wheter in person, texting or phone!
2007-03-11 10:02:57 · answer #1 · answered by =P 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hello. I will try to say this without sounding parental or cruel. When you say "long distance" relationship, I assume that you see each other, in a more "intimate" type, relationship. If this is the case, then fine, but when you are not together, is he seeing anyone (you would acually need to bluntly ask, if he has anyone else in his life). If it's yes, then the "I love you" scenario, would not be a good idea, because you will embarrass yourself and risk any future meetings with him. If he says that he is seeing only you, then you might have a better chance of getting a more receptive response. Long distance relationships seldom work, due to one or both parties, not being faithful. If he swears he is, take it with a grain of salt. It's not like he's going to tell you that he see's several differant women. I don't want to sound jaded or untrusting, but hey, people are what they are, and if you decide to be trusting and not question anothers motives or sincerity, don't be surprised when you find out that they don't have the same goals in mind, as you did. Don't set yourself up for hurt and let down. Good luck. Hope this guy is not a using, troll.
2007-03-11 17:21:48 · answer #2 · answered by David T 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know how much you want to say it....but I say hold your horses...and see if he says it first. If you both are meeting often, then I'd suggest saing it in person is a much better option. This way you get to see the other person's reaction in a much better way. U can read the person better that way. Let him know through the way you look at him....or the way you are affectionate and tender..and caring...and thoughtful...and in all other ways. But also be cool and casual. Sometimes being too emotional can make a guy pull away, esp if he is not very sure. So I'd say wait for some more time to see if he says it first. Since your relationship is long distance, I think it is normal for such things to be delayed a little bit, so just have patience. Keep meeting often. All the best! Hope he says it soon..
2007-03-11 17:04:01 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, saying it over the phone minimizes the meaning of the word love. If you truly feel this emotion for this man, I would think the words would easily flow, if someone told me that they loved me and were stammering, and looking away or up and not at me, I would not take the comment seriously at all. I would think you would be far more direct, and really want to say how you feel to someone you loved, don't confuse infatuation or what you "think" the person you love should be, make sure you really feel the love, otherwise, it will mean nothing.
2007-03-11 17:03:19 · answer #4 · answered by fisherwoman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well congratlulations that the long distance relationship is still going strong because i know most couples would of given up by now, if you love him wait until you see him next dont rush into saying you love him ,saying i love you isnt something you plan to say it just happens, trust hun wen the time is right xx
2007-03-11 17:12:09 · answer #5 · answered by xxcharlenebbyxx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't say it over the phone. It's too cold. Say it when the moment is right not because you planned it. When you REALLY feel it you'll just say it without thinking in the heat of the moment. Then you can know it's real.
2007-03-11 17:01:55 · answer #6 · answered by missi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you chicken out, why not get him a nice card and mail it to him? You can profess your love in this way.
2007-03-11 21:51:50 · answer #7 · answered by Rhonda B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay saying it over the phone, just be sure to tell him you were so scared to do it in person you just couldn't do it (he'll think it's cute). Hope everything goes well! :)
2007-03-11 16:58:07 · answer #8 · answered by julia 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It would not be cute - only stupid. Let him say it first or forget it. You need to get your mind on your studies and off of him.
2007-03-11 16:59:36 · answer #9 · answered by solotrovo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no way. say it face to face. more romantic than over phone, email, or text. you'll be happy you did
2007-03-11 17:05:08 · answer #10 · answered by Nick C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋