I like this boy, but he has had sex, and I haven't. I'm scared that he'l compare me to her when we do it....Help me plz!!!
2007-03-11 09:48:12 · 25 answers · asked by ~~~lilstar~~~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
omg. i almost know wut your going thru. i had this problem about two weeks ago. he was mai ex. and i really like him. he dumped me already three times before. and then i ditched skewl to be with mai bf...who dumped me two nites ago. so i had sex with mai ex. and it was mai first time. he pushed me into it. i said no. he kept pushing. if you really dont wanna loose it rite now...then dont. it just happened for me. i wasnt ready. but i stil like him so much. and then i got back with him yesterday. this all happened in less than three weeks. and see. dont let him push you into anything. not if your not ready. because we didnt use any protection and i really regret that. so if you do decide to..dont et him compare ypu or let you feel bad in anyway. go with your heart. and dont rush. gyud luck with that.♥
2007-03-11 09:58:00 · answer #1 · answered by Mooshellee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most guys don't take the time to please a woman, even a lifetime and they still don't know or even care to ask a woman's needs so I seriously doubt he is skilled at love making. Casual sex is fleeting and frankly boring with someone you don't deeply love. The minimum any man should take to make love to a woman would be an hour.
Make a guy work for the privilege of being intimate with you. Lovemaking isn't just flesh touching flesh, it's also experiencing someone else's energy. If you have casual sex you will wish you ate double chocolate gateau and watched your favourite movie instead.
2007-03-11 11:08:03 · answer #2 · answered by SUE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really doesn't matter what it was like with someone else it's all about how it is with the two of you. If you really love each other then it can be a beautiful experience.
Make sure you are ready and don't feel pressured because that is a very big step to take. If you decide to go ahead remember to use contraception.
2007-03-11 10:12:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think that's a reasonable concern, but not one that you continually need to worry about. If this guy really respects and appreciates you, it won't matter. I mean, sex should be more of a supplement to the relationship anyway, as opposed to being something so high up in priorities that you feel inadequate or worried like this.
2007-03-11 09:52:59 · answer #4 · answered by filledesarcenciel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so many girls out there who worry about this, i know i did before my first time. So don't worry babe, you are not alone!!
If this boy likes you and is a decent guy then he wont compare you to anyone, he will just enjoy sharing this intimate moment with you. But you have to make sure you are comfortable with him and that you are truly ready to go that step further.
Think things over before you do anything babe, and always be careful.
Good luck xxx
2007-03-11 10:32:25 · answer #5 · answered by anastacia500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound scared... if you're scared about having sex with him you shouldn't be doing it. I believe you should really talk to him first and have a solid relationship-to the point where you feel comfortable telling him you're a virgin. Actually i believe that sex is for married couples but your sex life is none of my buisness. I hope i helped
Good luck and God bless.
2007-03-11 09:53:50 · answer #6 · answered by missi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the sex is about sharing how you feel about each other, he won't be comparing. If he's just having sex with you just to have sex, then maybe you should reconsider actually giving away your virginity to him. It would be good to bring the subject up to him, so that he knows what your concerns are. Its hard for him to be considerate of your feelings if he doesn't know what they are.
2007-03-11 09:54:57 · answer #7 · answered by Lady M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if you just want to have sex with him,then hes gonna think you just went out with him because of the sex,but since you say u havent had sex,well i recommend you watch some "you know what" videos,so u can learn whats going to happen and youll know what to expect and also use a condom,and if u dont want to have sex then dont do it,make him wait,and if the only thing he wants is sex then,screw him i know u like him,but theres gonna be other guys out there im promise you,i also had that feeling,i felt like i cant live without her,and i just wanted her,but months later i forgot about her.
2007-03-11 09:54:03 · answer #8 · answered by SDCHARGERS#87 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if you like him and he likes you don't rush into sex if you are not ready and especially if you are worried about him comparing you....If he has to compare the girls he slept with then he might not be making all the right moves....
2007-03-11 09:56:22 · answer #9 · answered by me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this boy like you for you then good, but if this boy going to compare you with this other girl then tell him to go away, if this is your first time for having sex then wait until you feel like doing it and if this boy doesn't wont to wait then tell to going and jump because you can do better then that sweetie good luck
2007-03-11 10:45:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋