We were together for a year and a half, but then i understood this is not going anywhere, when need be he would call me his buddy and then at times much more. I felt i wasbeing used emotionally, when i asked him about us, he said he is too busy with his school and job and stuff which i understand, but all i wanted was a commitment. I think the long distance "friendship" (him being in NYC and me being in L.A) and his not very encouraging answers got to me and finally i told him it won't work and that i have many friends i don't need another i want much more and if he couldn't give me that then, it's better we part ways. This was in december, we haven't talked since. He didn't wish me on my B'day but all this time he has been in touch with a friend of mine i mean he has called her a few times asking about me and how i was doing. today he called her and asked her if i have another commited relationship and if it's really me who is not interested or the guys that turn me down! Y CARE?
2007-03-11 09:40:36 · 8 answers · asked by shaiyan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe he cares because he does love you, and then maybe it appears as if he cares and he really doesn't. Either way I think you need to give him a call and tell him to stop calling people and asking them about you. Keeping tabs on an ex is not a good sign no matter what questions are being asked.
Just my opinion
2007-03-11 09:49:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think if he was so clear about it and after u told him u want more or nothing he still didn't react to that and let u go and the fact that he didn't wish u on your birthday, shows that he really was using u and is not into u that much. Even if it was his ego which shouldn't be the case in the first place, he could have atleast called your friend and ask her how u celebrated your birthday or something to show that he did remember your special day. DID HE??? If not, and this guy calls your friend only to know what u have been upto, that only shows one thing, I feel, and that is ..... he is just curious of what u r upto and if u found the commitment u were looking for, and maybe he is just bugged by the thought that u didn't contact him all this time and is trying to say nasty stuff so that u would call him and u know maybe yell at him or whatever. This doesn't have to do anything with "love" just that he might be one of those people who don't like to let go and can't stand the fact that it's so easy for some1 to just forget them. Maybe he just wants to make sure u hear all the things he says and react, also that way he makes sure he is still somewhere in your discussions. Know what i mean?
2007-03-11 10:21:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hm....tough situation. Perhaps he is simply confused. He likes you, but doesn't want to lead you on (even if it is unintentional) esp. now because you have stated "what you want" in clear terms. Which I think you were right in doing. So he knows now that he can't just dilly dally with you forever.
If you feel that being his buddy is something you can live with, without wanting more, without expecting more, then be his buddy for a while, and see where it leads? Keep it open, and go where the flow takes you. He is free to date, and you are free to date others....but you both can still be in touch as friends and there for each other. This way you are not truly "waiting" for him, but you are still in touch with him. U r giving him what he wants, but not holding up your life either. This is only if you can handle it. If you Cant, then it's best to not put yourself through that pain and try to move on.
Perhaps, even in his confusion, he is ofcourse curious whether you are still into him or not. I think it's a good sign...
All the best with your situation..
2007-03-11 09:52:13 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just jealous.
Having lost his "control" over you, it makes him feel helpless that you are now free to please another man.
It is my belief that he just enjoyed it when he could order you around. True love should never be that way.
He could still have feelings for you though, & in that case, he merely feels jealous that you are with another man, simply because he was wanting that you are with him instead.
2007-03-11 09:45:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think its better not be in touch with him..when u know he cant give u more than friendship then there is no use...he would be using u more for his other work. so better stay away...n live u r life happily.
2007-03-12 11:33:22 · answer #5 · answered by Ash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably still wants you and regrets letting go of your relationship. He's probably too embarrassed to ask you in person because he's disappointed that he let you go. How cute! :)
2007-03-11 09:46:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he still does have feelings for you, but is very busy with his work right now.i suggest you talk to him seriously and ask him if he does. i mean, you never know. take the risk you know?
2007-03-11 09:45:37 · answer #7 · answered by LEANNE. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, why do you care? maybe he's just jealous. unless you want to get back together with him, move on.
2007-03-11 09:49:53 · answer #8 · answered by musiclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋