I just realized i have a problem.. With guys i'm not attracted to i'm able to be classy and keep them as friends for years and years.. but when it's somebody that i'm attracted to, i strategically make it so we don't have a connection and get to the point they want to break up with me everytime. i just realized this with the last guy i met.. he was really into me, he used to call me at night to talk so we could get to know eachother, and i wouldn't answer the phone and then i slept with him fast.. i always do that.. guys i'm not attracted to, i can be friend with them for ten years, be drunk around them and everything and not sleep with them.. why do i do this? i want to be happy someday...
2007-03-11 09:38:11 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like youre intentionally trying to sabotage it because youre scared. Afraid of what might happen if you do get involved.
2007-03-11 09:44:17 · answer #1 · answered by Trey B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't any pressure if your not attracted to a guy, so you can be yourself and not think about it and worry if just being yourself is ok. If you aren't attracted to him, then who cares if he doesn't like you, right? But if your attracted to him, then you do care if he likes you or not. And you probably want attractive guys to like you so much, that you sleep with them for fear they won't like you if you don't. Now, what to do about that isn't so easy. If you can set up times you are together with them where it won't lead to sex, like going for coffee (drive separate!), it will help prevent jumping in prematurely and allow both of you time to get to know each other first.
2007-03-11 16:47:12 · answer #2 · answered by Lady M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you just rush into things with the right guy, and realize that they are perfect, and think, there must be something wrong with this person. Then you nit pick at every little tiny thing that they do worng, until the point where they annoy you so much that you have to break up with them. Maybe YOU are the self concious one, and feel that they will find something that you have and you would consider to be querky, to them it would be really irritating and annoying, so you break up with them, before they find the "problem with you. IDK. I hope that this helps!
2007-03-11 16:43:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you ought to invest in a few sessions of counseling to find out why to sabotage all of your prospective husbands, hon. There are too many reasons why you might be doing this to discuss it here.... the best money you will ever spend
2007-03-11 16:42:03 · answer #4 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest to just be yourself! And don't go so fast in a relationship...its a process so take it slow first off.....then when u both feel like u'r ready then talk about all those things!
2007-03-11 16:43:23 · answer #5 · answered by mrpslovssg1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the sounds of it you are trying to get them to go away...if you want to be happy then it would be best if you do answer the phone. guyz want to find their soul mate just as badly as we do. if he really was interested in you and really wanted to be with you then why did you do that to him?? i mean he sounds like he really liked you. dont just go "sleep around" with guyz that like you. if you arent attracted in them then you shouldnt even date them and put them through that. just find someone you really do like and can picture being with for a long time, dont sleep with them, and get to know them. for all you know they could be the one!! GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-03-11 16:48:32 · answer #6 · answered by [[baby girl]] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd suggest just treat everyone like your not attracted to them. then they will become your friends and will know you better when you do start to date them. sometimes friends make the best significant other.
2007-03-11 16:42:56 · answer #7 · answered by anonymous 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU HAVE A PROBLEM CALLED INSECURITY. YOU ASSUME THAT IF YOU SLEEP WITH THEM THAN THEY HAVE WHAT THEY WANT AND NOW THEY CAN GO OWN ABOUT THEIR BUSINESS.YOU NEED TO STOP BEFORE YOU HURT YOURSELF. LET THEM GET TO KNOW YOU. GO OUT ON DATES WITH THEM. BUT WHAT WORKED FOR ME IS I FOUND ONE THING THAT I HATED ABOUT THEM AND TRAINED MY MIND TO ALLOW IT TO GROW ON ME WITHIN 90 DAYS, THAT WAY THEY CAN ONLY KNOW ME NOT ME IN THE BEDROOM.TRY IMAGINING THAT HE IS ONE OF YOU OTHER FRIENDS.I HOPE IT WORKS GOOD LUCK.IT WORKED FOR ME......
2007-03-11 16:48:51 · answer #8 · answered by nursediva1000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have commitment issues and it seems to be very self-defeating you should try to find the root of this problem and do what you can to solve it.
2007-03-11 16:45:50 · answer #9 · answered by FengHuaXueYue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋