co-dependency or fear?
2007-03-11 09:35:39 · 7 answers · asked by milo2angel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sometimes it's hard to let go, even if it's not a relationship you feel good in. Sometimes it's fear of going out in the cruel world of dating again, after a long time off. Sometimes it's because we're used in being with this someone and lay back. I wouldn't say co-dependency, but it could also be. The thing is that no matter how hard it seems to start over and be alone for a while, it's the best thing to do. If you were wearing a pair of shoes that hurt you feet and cause pain when you walk would you keep wearing them? I think not! Got the point?
2007-03-11 09:58:06 · answer #1 · answered by helena_m_p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first of all, if a person is completely independent then they are most likely very self centered. there has to be some 'co'-dependency' to be in a relationship. it sure is nice to feel needed and wanted and loved by your partner. he's good at this, she's good at that for the relationship to work.
like yin and yang you might say. there is harmony. some people stay in an unhappy relationship for many reasons...doenst mean they dont want happiness...it means they are hoping things to work out eventually. thats all. peace
2007-03-11 09:42:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of reasons. All of them bad. personally, I stayed to start with for the kids, then I stayed longer because I was afraid of being alone. Am currently learning that I deserve better and I am the only one that can make it better. Hope you can too and not take as long doing it as I did.
2007-03-11 09:43:49 · answer #3 · answered by Laura B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many, due to both. Sometimes it very hard to accept changes that are going to be challenging, also people get real comfortable with their situation that they dont realize that what they experience isn't common with everybody else. As for fear, well sometimes people just settle cuz they dont want to have to put themselves out there and start all over again. Definitely, once you are out and realize what its like to be happy again, it makes you wanna kick yourself in the ***...
2007-03-11 09:44:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lots of people do as have i but finding the strength to stand on your own feet and walk away is not easy but it is better to be alone than to be with someone for the sake of having someone or fear of being alone..good luck.
2007-03-11 09:42:08 · answer #5 · answered by blondieshebamonty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
majority of relationships I'd guess.
2007-03-11 09:39:01 · answer #6 · answered by vaivagabundo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not I
2007-03-11 09:38:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋