Should I say this to her? I'm trying to plan out what to say to the girl I miss these words are from the heart

Question

Hey. How are you? Ever since we stopped talking, I had been going over everything in my head, trying to figure out what I was doing wrong. You know, I still remember what you said to me the last time we talked, the things you were mad at me about. I remember the first thing you said was that I harassed you. It's kind of funny really, that was the last thing I ever wanted to do to you but I guess I did anyway. If you said that because I called you every weeknight, it as only because when we were at school we'd only talk for two minutes. I never really got to talk to you when it'd be just me and you. Even when I called, someone else would always called. And then, I had a sort of "calling plan" you see, I would call you at 9 and if you didn't answer, I'd wait 1 hour and try again, and if you didn't answer I'd just talk to you the next day because I didn't want to bother you. I was always afraid that I was doing something wrong to make you not like me.

I also remember that you told me I obsessed over you. I guess I did and I'm sorry, But what boy wouldn't obsess over a amazing, wonderful, smart, talented, funny, beautiful girl like you? Especially if he didn't want to lose you. A special girl like you is hard to find. No one else has your light brown eyes that sparkle when you're happy and fade away when you're sad. I get lost in your eyes. I still haven't found a girl with your bright smile. I remember the last thing you said was I don't know you. You told me before that, when I was feeling down that you could tell something was wrong because you know me! I know I don't know everything about you, but I want to know everything about you. I really care about you you're special to me. Without you, I just had to admit that I must be really stupid. I should have understood then what you were trying to tell me, that it wasn't anything wrong with me that you didn't like, it was you just didn't share those feelings for me that I had for you

I've found out for myself it was better when you didn't like me in that way. Now that you don't like me at all, I realize that's worse. So, for these things I've done, I'm really sorry. I was just afraid of losing you, so I did. I only want us to start over, pretend this whole thing never happened and if necessary forget that there was any mention of romantic interest between us. Maybe we could chill and hang out somewhere sometime as just friends, because I know with you I don't have a chance. I just want your friendship back, if it's ok with you.

This is not a letter, I want to say this to her. Guys and girls what do you think? Girls, would you talk to me again if you were her (I can handle the hard truth)? Are there any revisions I should do? How do I make this shorter so I don't bore her? I just have this feeling if I try actually talking to her instead of ignoring her she might listen. We've been saying hi to each other occasionally

I have not tried to speak to her in the time of us not talking, I've ony called once then hung up out of fear a long time ago, basically I haven't tried hard at all. The ignoring thing seems like it's taking too long in terms of her coming to me, but she sneaks glances at me from a distance. and that's just not me. I guess I'm just mister nice guy.

Answer 1

Honestly, I think you're laying it on a little tiny bit too thick. Try to cut it down a bit because she's bound to interrupt you before you finish saying all that anyway. Maybe you shouldn't go over all your past mistakes either, you're just reminding her why she hates you. Also don't tell her about your calling plan (the part about the phoneing) it sounds too creepy.
But other than that if it really did come from your heart, I think it's really good and you obviously love her so go for it!!
Good Luck

Answer 2

I think this is a bad idea you sound way too needy and clingy and if she's already said you harras her and obsses over her this is only going to make her think you're creepy and annoying. If you want to wait a little and see if she was even the slightest bit of an interest in you she'll call you. If not just find someone who actually likes you and wants to talk to you. But remember girls want what they have to work for. Good luck.

Answer 3

wow ur gonna need a bottle of water if ur gonna say all of this to her..lol..um well i think its pretty gud buh its too much nd touchy..its sweet buh u wanna get more straight to da point nd try to take out less information. it sounds like more of a movie. tell her stuff dat u mean not stuff u heard from movies..its better to b unique dan to repeat same old lines..buh remember if she still doesnt act da same dont get mad..it seems gud tho so go for it nd remember she aint da last girl

Answer 4

Dude, let her go. Anyone who needs this much convincing just isn't into you. Save yourself!