I've never had a serious relationship before, so would it be a bad idea to have my first be somewhat long distance? The guy I like goes to another school. Here's the long version if anyone's dying to know :)...
I met this guy through an SAT prep class where we met every Sunday and Wednesday. We got to know eachother a bit and got along really well. He's really nice and I kinda got the vibe that he liked me. I'm pretty shy though, and wasn't able to give him my number before the last class ended. However, he said I should come see a play he was in at his school in a couple weeks. I don't know if that was hinting at anything. But I've decided to go, and I'm hoping I can meet up with him after the play. If things go well, should I give him my number or ask for his? I don't really know how this goes, so please help out a beginner... Any tips would be greatly appreciated.
2007-03-11 09:10:58 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'm guessing by "long distance" you mean "other side of town" rather than another city?
i presume your school friends are used to dating people from the same school where it is easier to see each other ... you can possibly walk/cycle to each other's house, or meet at the local cafe?
so, by seeing someone on the other side of town you're going to have to be a little more organised, take the bus or get a lift from your parents/friends, and meet somewhere half way.
this doesn't exactly count as a long distance relationship, but i suppose if you don't have your own transport then any distance beyond walking can seem like the end of the earth.
as other answers suggest, the odds are stacked against long distance relationships for a number of reasons. partly because you can't spontaneously spend time with each other, things fall into a routine or pattern, there's a degree of effort/hassle involved in getting together, and sooner or later one side usually decides they'd prefer something a little easier, or someone closer to home.
i don't suppose you've anything to lose, and by the sounds of things he's not on the other side of the country. you could go to the play and catch up with him, try to gauge the vibe .... at the very end of the night, when you're ready to go home you could ask if he wants your number. if he says yes then hopefully he'll call and that'll be great, if he says no then the embarrassment will only be momentary as you'll be leaving anyway and won't have to endure it for too long.
nothing ventured, nothing gained.
good luck :o)
2007-03-11 09:25:52 · answer #1 · answered by brightspark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, as long as he's not TOO far away, things should go smoothly. I would go to the play and "play" everything by ear. If it's meant to be, it'll happen. This is sort of what I went through with my first bf in high school. He was going to be a freshman in college and I was starting my senior year. It's better to start something now than later on because at least you will have a base to start on.
Best of luck.
2007-03-11 16:18:16 · answer #2 · answered by thebodyelectric! 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can give it to him if you plan on wasting time. Long distance relationships don't work. Eventually you or he'll lose the jones for the other.
2007-03-11 16:14:56 · answer #3 · answered by cashew 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just know that long distance relationships have their good and bad sides
2007-03-11 16:15:38 · answer #4 · answered by Nick C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋