If you son said to you he wanted to be the opposite sex. Serious answers please. Need your advice. And also parents how should a parents son go about telling them this. Please Help.
2007-03-11 08:49:54 · 22 answers · asked by ♥Jesse♥ 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It would sting at first, of course. But I would love my son no matter what and support him. If you have known this for awhile and you tell your parents and they are upset, you need to give them time to let it soak in. You had time to figure it out, give them time to get used to it.
As for how to tell them, tell them you have something serious to tell them, sit them down and just come out with it. They need to know that this is something you have been thinking about for a long time and it's not a phase.
2007-03-11 09:33:22 · answer #1 · answered by im_buz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to accept that when a couple has a child, the last thing they imagine is that thier precious baby girl or boy will want to be the opposite sex. No matter how you tell them, they are going to experience a vast array of emotions. Your parents want you to be happy, and it will probably break their hearts that you dont love yourself enough to accept who you were made as. There is no easy way to do this. Before you consider telling them, you should deeply examine yourself. Why do you want to be a woman? Is it because you are gay, and you think that being a woman will make it ok to love a man? Why cant you love yourself for who you are, and find a partner who will do the same, instead of hating yourself so bad that you want to destroy your body?
2007-03-11 16:03:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a parent, but only you can tell if you parents are willing to be accepting. You best bet with telling them is either set them both down or set the one more likely to be accepting down and flat out tell them "I want to be a women". You are going to need to explain yourself because most people will have a hard time accepting it. They will want to know "what it means". People in disbelief have a hard time understanding something even when it's simple. If you are not financially independent and don't have supportive friends, I'd hold off on telling them if you think they will reject you. I know that you'd rather tell them than hide, but you will want the love and support of your friends if your parents take it poorly.
2007-03-11 17:38:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my son wanted to be the opposite sex, I think I would support him. I am against it, but also support it ya know? It would be hard and nothing would ever be the same, things would be awkward, but family is family. I would try to be supportive as much as I could. As for going about telling them, I would not know how to help ya there. Goodluck
2007-03-11 15:56:56 · answer #4 · answered by mrs.russell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel that this is fine because sexuality is a fluid thing. As a parent I will always love my child and even if you switch genders you are still my child and I love you. No good parent stops loving their kid over something like that. If the do I am sorry you are free to be you in this diverse world.
2007-03-11 18:32:06 · answer #5 · answered by I'm here for now 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's start off with this. Feeling you were born the wrong gender is not being gay. It's being transgendered. I would be sad because it's going to be very hard for them...and I don't like the idea of my child being in pain. I have friends who are currently walking that road and it is very hard for them. However, I would be completely supportive. Their identity is their own, even their gender identity, and pretty much whatever they decide it to be is fine by me. I'd also want them to talk it all out with me or a counselor, not to convince them not to but because it's such a hard thing for a person that I would want them to have an outlet for that pain and stress. I would ideally want my child to trust me enough to simply tell me.
2007-03-11 18:47:45 · answer #6 · answered by evilangelfaery919 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be disappointed, shocked, hurt, embarrased, wonder to myself what did I do wrong as a mother, think maybe it's a stage, i would pray for him...........but in the end I would still love him and accept him. I would never ever disown my son no matter what. It would just take a long long time to get used to the change. But he will still be my son.
2007-03-11 15:57:37 · answer #7 · answered by Betty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I love my son no matter what (that's what makes it unconditional)...I admit it would be tough to hear and swallow at first and it would take some time to digest but bottom line he is my son and I would support him in his decision...just sit your parents down and tell them flat out.....honesty and open communication is the best.
2007-03-11 15:53:33 · answer #8 · answered by Spaceyangel 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I personally would say no. My family is very religious and god wanted you to be the sex you are. By changing it you would be going against gods wishes. I would tell my son that. I'm really sorry for the problems you are having. Try asking him why and say you are male and that's how things are suppose to be. If they weren't then they would have been different in the first place.
2007-03-11 15:54:23 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I would support my child no matter what. That's what a mom should do. Unconditional love is just that...unconditional. I would get counseling for the child, not because of how they feel but because of how they will likely be treated by society. My love for my children never falters.
2007-03-11 16:30:16 · answer #10 · answered by glitterkittyy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋