im afraid she will get raped. she leaves the house with over half her breasts exposed. 1 day i tried to put a poncho over her to hide her shame, but she kicked me in the peanuts. i fell down the steps. the girl is out of control. i had to call the cops over 10 times !!! i cant take this anymore.
2007-03-11 08:29:17 · 37 answers · asked by Orange Juice 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
throw out her sickening clothes and don't buy any more. Your the parent, do your job.
2007-03-11 08:33:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 1⤋
As the mother of 3 daughters I have to ask the over whelming question of: WHERE WERE YOU WHEN SHE OBTAINED THE CLOTHES? WHERE WAS HER MOTHER WHEN SHE OBTAINED THE CLOTHES? If I were you I would go out and buy her jeans & baggy t-shirts then pack up all her "sexy" clothes when she goes to school and donate them before she got home. She can't ware what she doesn't have.
If she is truly "out of control" get some professional help and get her "in control". Are you her parent or what? Suck it up and do the right thing.....if you had been you would not be in this place.....
2007-03-11 17:01:38 · answer #2 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How old is she?
My daughter is 13 and is not allowed to purchase her own clothing yet. Also we reserve the right to search her room at any point. Her room is in my house and I can go anywhere in my house I want. Until she pays rent, her privacy is squarely in my jurisdiction. Also, as her father, I also reserve the right to search her locker at school. If she shows me I can trust her to act appropriately and dress appropriately, she can have the freedom she wants and deserves. If she does not act or dress appropriately, she is in my swamp and you never mess with the alligator in the middle of his swamp.
Having said that, I am not blind. I know once she is out of my sight, she is going to do or wear whatever she wants. But I don't have to make it easy for her. If she wants to break the rules, I'm going to make her work for it.
By the way, If my daughter kicked me in the "peanuts", she would find an "in kind" punishment (from her mother) along with her bags packed (from me). It would then be time for tough love.
Remember, you are not there to win a popularity contest, you are there to do a job. That is raising an upstanding, contributing member of society.
Good Luck!
2007-03-11 10:18:58 · answer #3 · answered by holdemfoldem911 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
How old is she????
How did she get the clothes?
If she lives in your house don't let her leave with those clothes.
My friend dressed like that when we were 15 and her mom came to a party in a ton of make-up, hair all curled, low rise jeans way to tight, white t-shirt red bra, and a thong, also a belt that said "Single"
She didn't have an issue after that. but i think thats a little drastic.
GOOD LUCK :)
2007-03-11 11:01:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is time to lay down the rules. Tell her no. Don't let her leave the house. But don't touch her. It is natrel for her to be doing this, but there limits as a parent you should and have to set.
Also about your concern for rape. Rape is not something that happens based on what she is wearing. It happens because some sick person out there want to rape.
2007-03-13 14:07:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok well i am a teen and i am guessing that she wants to let other guys start to like her but u no what if she's wearing tank tops or sumthing why dont u buy her a really nice jacket to cover her a little and that would look nice and also why dont u try to take her shopping at forever 21 or abercobie and when she goes out with friends make sure that shes not out with guys or else whe will u no what and yea and make sure that u dont give her friday nite out coz i am guessing she goes to the mall and buys short clothes so i am guess she buys studff
2007-03-13 10:59:49 · answer #6 · answered by Zahera♥ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know someone whos daughter was doing this .. so she showed up where her daughter was with her friends all decked in the skin tight , cut down to there, low riding jeans... complete with GRANNY panties (not a thong) hanging out the top of them... to show her just how ridiculous she looked when she walked out of the house like that... my other question to parents who say their kids are dressing to sexy is... WHO IS BUYING THE CLOTHES?? or giving them the money to shop dont give her access to them she doenst have them to wear or raid closet while shes gone and throw em all out
2007-03-11 09:50:55 · answer #7 · answered by Vickie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hey speed..! It's too late 'to close the barn door after the horse is gone". Your daughter's behaviour didn't change over night. Where where you when she needed your attention when she was younger? Your daughter is getting what she has probably been craving since she was very young - YOUR ATTENTION. Unfortunately, you, like many other parents I know, has created a situation that is obviously going to be devastating for you and your child. Go and get counselling and try to salvage your daughter from disaster.
2007-03-11 08:41:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
If she's under the age of 18 go through her closet and throw away all her "sexy" clothes. If she's over 18 ask her to take her sexy clothes and go find some place else to live.
2007-03-14 23:13:41 · answer #9 · answered by coolred38 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Rape is a crime that does not depend on what girls are wearing...I would like to point out that all kinds and ages of women - including grannies and small children, are raped...but your issue is your daughter's revealing clothes...
You don't say how old your daughter is...maybe a school which has uniforms, or a strict dress code would be part of the answer...
I would ask which women she admires...show her pictures of successful women, who did not get there by showing all of their assets off...women who are well paid for using their brains, not their bodies to get ahead...
Young girls are being sent a horrible message by advertisers, who use sex appeal to sell everything from beer to cars, and by celebrity magazines who show people like Britney Spears and Paris Hilton letting everything hang out...
unfortunately, if you try to physically 'cover her up', her thinking won't be any different, and the first time you are not around, she will go right back to overly sexy clothes...it is also true that fathers can sometmes be a little overprotective of daughters, so TALK to her, and explain that she is beautiful, and for the sake of self-respect, she needs to dress to feel successful and confident, not like a pinup girl at the gas station
2007-03-11 09:14:38 · answer #10 · answered by jgirl 3 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Well, first of all, you have to set the ground rules. After all, you are the parent.
Secondly, get rid of these skimpy outfits she wears. It's not against the law to wear conservative clothing, mostly, she's testing the limits of what you allow, and what you don't.
If she's legal age, to do what she wants, there's not a lot of choices for you to do, outside of sending her to a councilor for teens, and making sure she doesnt' do something that ruins her for life....medicated or not.
2007-03-11 08:34:39 · answer #11 · answered by steveraven 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋