When my fiance' was kilt 3 months ago. I was facing the toughest stage of my life. I never experience something so painful like that before. Like I didn't want to live anymore. I started coming to church almost everyday just to be away from home. & keep my mind occupied. Cuz usually I am crying. I cried my heart out to God every single day asking him to take this pain from me and strengthen me. And a couple of months later I was strengthened. Like everyone say... time heals. I don't want to come to church anymore. My friend calls me to ask me to me to come. & I don't have interest anymore. She is upset with me for not coming anymore. I told her I don't need to come to church to show off or prove to everyone I love God. I don't feel bad. She tries to make me feel bad tho by showing she is disappointed. I go to work everyday and after work I am exhausted I go home eat dinner and go to sleep. Then on saturdays I party and sleep in on Sundays so I can have energy 4 work on monday.
2007-03-11 08:24:30 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
They have service almost everyday...prayer on wed, cell group on thur, youth group on fri, super saturday on sat, then sunday as usual.
2007-03-11 08:27:28 · update #1
I understand that not everything is for everyone. Am I wrong for not coming anymore?
2007-03-11 08:28:59 · update #2
& I am not ready to give up partying... It makes me feel like I should not be Christian. I just want to live my life. Work have money, pay bills, buy things, have some laughs and a good time. I don't hurt anyone. I treat others as I want to be treated. Being a (true) Christian is too tough..its not for me. Maybe I don't want to be a Christian. Becuz I still want to party. I am only 21 years old.
2007-03-11 08:56:09 · update #3
Are you born of Gods Spirit? Then you are a child of the King, inheriting the Kingdom blessings.
I think you are going through a mourning. Blessed are those who mourn for they shall be comforted. Ask God about going to church again. Maybe God is directing you to a different church.
Once born of His Spirit, you can't become an un child of God.
Put God first Sunday Morning (Your firstfruits of the week), by praying to God about going to church. Staying home, reading His Word, praising God singing Psalms. Turning on a Christian program, like http://www.intouch.org , (to find the time & station). When it is time, and you learn how to listen to Gods direction, then you will know when it is time to return to church again.
2007-03-11 08:34:48 · answer #1 · answered by t a m i l 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you used God to get comfort and now that he has strengthened you, you don't need him anymore? Not that you should have to go to church every single day, but that's my assessment of the situation. A lot of people do this. It's pretty sad. There's a lot more to loving God than just showing up to church. It shows in your daily walk with Him. If you love God you will obey Him. Your answer of "I party on Saturdays and sleep on Sundays so I can be rested for work on Mondays" shows that your committment to God was only based upon what you thought he could do for you in that moment. If you are truly saved and you read your bible, and pray to God you will know exactly what it is you should be doing. Partying on Saturdays and sleeping in order to be ready for work is not it, if you claim to love God. I guess he'll just sit on the shelf until you "need" him again. It's a good thing he doesn't neglect us like we do him. If he took his hand of grace off of you for one moment there's no telling where you would be.
2007-03-11 08:29:40 · answer #2 · answered by hun bun 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally do not go to church either because I am spiritual and church just gives me confusion about the true nature of GOD. However I strongly suggest reading the Bible daily, just a chapter a day and meditating on HIS WORD day and night. In my personal experience I have learned that most of the time I was extremely careful not to judge other people but saw nothing wrong with judging GOD. And I was using ignorance as my formula to arrive at a conclusion.Take care and may GOD bless you.
2007-03-11 08:38:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss.
I was going through some really hard times and attended church 3 times a week.. and much like you i gained so much support and strength from my church family. After a while I thought"hey, I'm OK now... maybe i dint need to come here as often!
But you know what the Lord said to me?
that would be selfish, so many people were there for me during my hardships, it's my turn to be there for someone else.
I Believe that we walk through our pain with the lord so that we may be there to strengthen and encourage others who will come after us.
Can you imagine what it would've been like for you if no one was there to help you through it?
You have to give it away to keep it!
Good luck and God Bless!
2007-03-11 08:34:11 · answer #4 · answered by allyn h 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not at all dear. You have made a valiant effort to restore your life after a tragical event. I believe God has answered your prayers, and you are now restored. You say you are losing your spirit, but I say it is right inside of you. Do not worry about the church services, take things on your own time.
2007-03-11 08:49:15 · answer #5 · answered by Julian 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you owe something to God. You don't HAVE to pay him back but it would only be moral nad right. Your actions are difinitive. You should go back to church at least once. I think I can say that you will probably be given a sign. I'll pray for god to show himself to you if you got to church next sunday.
2007-03-11 08:33:02 · answer #6 · answered by Branden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your loss. You don't need to prove anything to anyone. After my mom died I thought I did too, and it sucks. Going to a grievance class really helped me. If you don't want to go to one at a church they usually offer them at the local hospital. I know it seems dumb but it honestly helped me work through my grief.
2007-03-11 08:28:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Solitude isn't good for you. A spiritual person gets closer to God, and he will make you happier than you can get alone.
We are a society. We need others.
Try our way and your friend will probably leave you alone. Better yet, perhaps you could persuade her to join you?
2007-03-11 08:32:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You want to be filled with spirit?
Proverbs 1:23 Turn you at my reproof: Behold, I will pour out my spirit upon you; I will make known my words unto you.
2007-03-11 08:30:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relax. If you don't want to go to church, don't go.
In those terms, God, like any loving parent,
wants you to be happy and fulfilled.
-----Julian is right, you cannot lose your spirit in any true terms.
2007-03-11 08:36:13 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋