what is wrong with me?

Question

i keep taking all my emotions out on my bf and i keep threating to break up with him. last night he gave me his word that he would be at my house at 5pm well 5:20pm he called me and said he wasnt coming that he was staying at his friends house to grill out ( he knows i dont like his best friend). so i got mad cuz he had gave me his word and i was looking forward to it. then wednesday he asked me to go fishing with him ( i dont fish he knows that) i told him that i was just gonna go home if he went he got pissed at me and walked out (we were at work) 5 pm came and i got off and he was no where to be seen so i drove down to his house to feed my dog then i came back to my place of business cuz i had forgotten something, and he showed up it was about 5:30 then and i went off cuz he walked out and all. what is wrong with me why do i keep blowing things out of proportion? Please help me!

also we have been going out for almost 9 months. and our first date he ditched me.and i flipped out and started to cry and all. and ever so often he does this too its like his best friend is more important than me. he says he loves me and doesnt wanna break up i dont wanna break up either. i love him i seriously do. but i cant change him and i so confused cuz i dont wanna break up with him.

Answer 1

this could be a reaction to your emotions - maybe sometimes he doesn't feel strong enough to deal with them and he might be worried that you will carry out your threat and dump him.

if he's still there after you've taken all your emotions out on him then it seems that he loves you a huge amount... maybe sometimes he just needs timeout away from what at times can be a demanding relationship.

i think you probably take out all your frustrations on your boyfriend because you feel that he can be yourself around him and feel comfortable to be yourself around him (which is some times a bit emotional!).

have a look at your life and what's causing you to be so emotional, if you can sort that out then when you are yourself with him it will be a less emotional one!

best wishes with it all - sounds like you've got a good relationship there underneath the emotional stress xxx