I have liked this guy for a while and we have become such close friends. I wanted to become more than that so i asked him out. All my friends were happy for me because they thought he liked me too. I thought i was going to have my first bf.
Anyways, he said that he liked me but "only as a friend." I guess i should be happy that we are still close friends but i still feel that we should be more than that. He is so sweet cuz, even though he rejected me he doesn't treat me any different. We still walk and talk together in the hallway. I still feel a spark,... or i think so.
Please give me some guidence. I don't what to do about the situation.
2007-03-11 08:12:09 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe your just over looking things.. and taking your closeness to this guy as a "love as more" when in reality.. you love him more like a bro... just give things time... k.. maybe some other bow will catch your eye..
2007-03-11 08:17:14 · answer #1 · answered by Corie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient and don't push the situation. If you do, you might lose his friendship. Be happy that he still accepts you as a good friend. Keep on being yourself and build on this friendship. Maybe one day he will like you back just as much.
Meantime enjoy the friendship that you have with him.
At the same time make other/more friends; maybe you will meet someone else who will return your affection.
Focus on how lucky you are to have such supportive friends. Don't be in too much of a hurry to get your first boyfriend. There will be someone for you when the time is right.
2007-03-11 15:27:43 · answer #2 · answered by jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think you young ladies get off track by asking boys out first. It may be the "in" thing to do, but I think most boys will admit, privately, that they like to do the asking. Why not just wait for the invitation and you won't have to be rejected. I'd make myself a little scarce in the halls, just a casual "hi,"etc, and let him wonder. Never be obvious, and even if you feel a spark, don't let him know it, just yet. Put the ball back in his court. Be cool.
2007-03-11 15:20:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe if you feel something going on between you two, could be because maybe there is something. maybe he hasnt realized it yet that he cares about you that way. if you feel like maybe you want to wait a little longer to see if he comes around, the go ahead. but keep in mind that there is also a big possibility that he may really just care about you as a friend. ive been in his position before and ive never had a problem continuing seeing they guy friend that liked me as a friend. so while i do hope that something happens between you two, i want you to also be careful for your heart and not wait forever. if you see that time goes by and that there isnt any change, you may want to consider moving on. because the more you wait, the more you prolong your pain and your possibility to end up in even more hurt. i wish you the best.
2007-03-11 15:21:04 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are saying, my best friend of my whole life was the guy i liked my whole life. I said i liked others, but he was the one always in my mind. I let on but never did anything about it, until two years ago i asked him to dance when we went out. He rejected me, but we stayed as close as always. Then last year (valentines day) we went out and i asked him to dance again (just as friends) adn he said sure whatever, but then about three months later he came out and told me he loved me and that he had since valentines day. If you guys are meant to be it will work out, and just give him time, after all it is something new for him. Don't let this ruin your friendship, just go abotu it like normal, but dont' get to touchy feely cause it will creep him out.
2007-03-11 15:18:54 · answer #5 · answered by music fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worrie. Maybe later in the future there will be a spark between both of you. But right now just give it some time. Ok. Somethings just dont come when you want them to.
2007-03-11 15:16:04 · answer #6 · answered by butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do keep him as a friend if he's not interested in being a boyfriend. Friends are like gold. Don't jump at the first one. Go slowly and let things develop on it's own. I do wish you luck though. ;)
2007-03-11 15:20:56 · answer #7 · answered by greylady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep being really sweet to him and he will probably start liking you. he might like you now but he just said he didnt cuz he didnt want things to change between you. but if he never does like you that way then dont worry about it. youll find another guy!
2007-03-11 15:20:11 · answer #8 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT PUSH HIM. wait for him to make the next move on you or you could loose your friend. he knows you like him and when he is ready (if he ever is) he will return the feeling. if he has told you no and you keep pushing he gonna think you crazy
2007-03-11 15:17:49 · answer #9 · answered by peachez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be, because ,thats the way you see him. And if you want more, then let him know. maybe ,he needs you to show, he's more then a friend to you. Maybe he's afraid you will reject him.
2007-03-11 15:18:07 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋