Okay here's the situation...my two girls and thier friends have all been playing outside today (finally a nice day here in Wisconsin) I saw one of the girl's parents outside with them...a little while later they came and asked us if they could walk to the park with "Jane's Daddy". Fine with me...I know the kids and their parents. Then I get a call from a cell phone, it was one of my girls asking if they could go to a different park, then she put her friend on the phone, I said "hi honey, is your Daddy with you?" she said "no" I said "well, who's with you guys" she said "ummmmm - my Mom" I said "can I talk to her please?" she said "NO" so my girl got back on the phone and admitted that no adults were with them. This park is by thier school (which actually just had a bomb threat called in last wednesday) it's about 8 blocks away and they crossed a very busy road where there is not even a crosswalk. 5 girls, 10, 9, 8(*2) and 7. I think they are way too young for that! Am I being mental??
2007-03-11 08:08:12 · 17 answers · asked by Cindy J 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Thankyou all sooooo much! I did talk with them and explain to them about all the dangers out there and the only reason I was upset was because I love and care about them. If I didn't care then it wouldn't have bothered me. But, yes they are home safe and sound..we went to pick them up right after that call. I will have to randomly pick the "best answer" just to give one of you the points but, once again, I thank all of you for your replies!!
2007-03-11 14:08:55 · update #1
No you are not over re-acting.You have every right to be cocerned.I also have daughters one of which is 10 and they are not allowed to go away from the home without an adult.My husband is a police officer and the thing's that go on today OMG we can't be careful enough..You need to have a talk with your girl's one because they lied to you and said the daddy was taking them and two they need to know how dangerous it is for kid's to be alone..I applaud you for being a good mother keep it up!!!!!!!!
2007-03-11 08:26:32 · answer #1 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not being mental! I have three boys, ages 14, 11, and 9. They are absolutely not aloud to go that far away from the house unsupervised! Not even the 14 yr old. Unfortunately things are no longer as they were when we were growing up. Its no longer safe to be with a group of friends, with no adults being there. The ages of the group of kids you said are together are young. There is too much that could go wrong, but i'm sure you already realize that. If it were my boys and they lied to me about adult supervision, and tried to put something over on me like that, not only would they be coming straight home asap, but they wouldn't be going back out any time soon (at least a week). Good luck mom!
2007-03-11 16:47:58 · answer #2 · answered by anncinn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm a kid-14 to be exact. And I completely understand how you feel. I know that if I had kids and I found out that tehre were no adults around I'd feel the same way.
I think you should call your girls back and have them come home. If they wanna play and stuff-that's fine. But going by themselves and lying isn't very good and for that they need to stay at home for the rest of their play date.
You're lucky you have a nice day over there-over here it's cloudy.
All the best!
2007-03-11 16:20:00 · answer #3 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not over-reacting. All kinds of bad things happen to kids, kids are snatched right from their own back yards and bedrooms! It's definitely not safe for them to be away from the house without adult situation. Since they lied to you, the need to get punished. You should also inform the other girls parents what happened, those other girls lied too, and their parents might not know what a risky situation the girls put themselves into.
2007-03-11 15:21:31 · answer #4 · answered by nimo22 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you should be very mad. My mom would punish me for lying and then tell my friends parents. I would do the same thing. Your kids and their friends need to understand that if they are at your house you are responsible. if they want to lie then they can do it with their own parents not you. YOU however should have gone and spoke w/jane's daddy to make sure he was going and verified what they said. Again if these girls were at your house. You are the acting parent for all of them.
2007-03-11 15:37:36 · answer #5 · answered by singraham30909 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you are not over-reacting at all. you made your girls go because you thought there was adult supervision. i'd want to find out what happened - did you presume that this dad was going with the children or did this dad take them and leave them there? did your girls give you the impression that an adult would be taking them? knowing full well that they were going by themselves. find out the whole story and then i'd talk to your girls about altering the truth. they admitted there was no adult, but that didn't happen until they asked you if they could go to another park and you wanted to speak to their friend's father. they should have called you when they knew no adult was with them not when they wanted to go to another park.
2007-03-11 15:28:19 · answer #6 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your entirely; I don't have any kids yet, but I wouldn't let my little cousins go eight blocks away and over a busy road without and adult! You're not being mental, you're caring about your daughters and their friends, which an astoundingly low amount of people seem to be doing lately. You're definately not over-reacting.
2007-03-11 15:14:17 · answer #7 · answered by Jade 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No your not being mental you are being a parent. I don't even let my 18 year old out with out knowing whats up. I'm not saying I know everything that's going on but she knows I will find out about her and I do check up on her. My 14 and 11 year old don't randomly run around unsupervised either. Good luck and I hope this helps.
2007-03-11 15:44:09 · answer #8 · answered by CJ5fan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't get mad, but explain why you don't want them wondering of by themselves til there older, and make sure they understand. If I was you, I would maybe use a little threat (not scary or to make them sad or anything) to tell them how unsafe it is in the world today. tell them what age u think they should be able to go out at. Just dont get mad or yell, that really disapooints the little ones. maybe you could talk with them about a GPS system for tracking to make sure they're safe. They might agree with that. But, no ur not overeacting, u might be mad, but all u have to do is cool down a little and explain some things to them. :)
2007-03-11 15:17:45 · answer #9 · answered by LastFallenTear 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No Way!! That's Crazy!! Defineltely speak to their parents and speak to your kids as well!
I don't have kids...But a younger brother and sister (13 and 12). My Sister holds my hand at every street crossing...She knows not to go anywhere without an adult...!
Wow! Thank God all the Kids are ok!!
2007-03-11 15:16:15 · answer #10 · answered by January00 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋