ok my mom is EXTREMELY overprotective. it is the most annoying thing ever. i thought i had it under control, but this is crazy. she has this thing where she has to see all of my friends, comments, messages, pictures, EVERYTHING, on my mypsace. it has gotten to the point where she asked for my password. i don't know what to do! i've tried talking to her, but she is one stubborn person. i'm considering deleting my myspace, should i just do that?
2007-03-11 08:05:15 · 21 answers · asked by jen. (: 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
it's not that she doesnt trust me she says it's those "other people" she doesnt trust. so yeah. and my mom isn't "psycho" either. ok?
2007-03-12 10:20:12 · update #1
I understand where she is comming from .. my mom is almost the same way.. there is just so many "pervs" on there she is just worried about your safety... and doesn't want you to have some sexual rapest on your myspace...I wouldn't be too hard on her... she just don't want you to miss use the site.. like posting nude pix or anything.. you should be thankful for your mom.. for trying to keep you safe....and you shouldn't delete anything.. if you know you don't put anything bad on there you shouldn't worry about whether your mom sees it or not..
2007-03-11 08:13:05 · answer #1 · answered by Corie 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
it might seem extremely overprotective, but she is just scared. There has been so much on the news about pedophiles and such preying on children through the internet. (My space gets the most press because it is probably the most popular) I look at what my three teenagers do online to make sure that they are not in some kind of trouble. It is my job to protect them. I do monitor what they put on their own websites and only question things when I cam concerned.
I also know all of their friends. This way I am more comfortable with the choices they are making. I don't monitor phone calls or mail--mail is a legal thing and phone is they need some privacy.
She loves you and wants to protect you from too much of the world too fast. She may be a bit overboard, but did you give her a reason to be by hiding something from her?
2007-03-11 15:14:34 · answer #2 · answered by crzyanl 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately we only get to hear your side of this. Some parents are more protective than others, but have you violated her trust, disobeyed several times, been caught with friends doing something stupid (drinking, drugs, sex, lying, ditching, etc...?)
As a parent of a 17-year old, we have similar restrictions for our daughter. We have access to her MySpace account, her e-mail, phone numbers for all of her friend's parents, etc... However these restrictions were the result of her lying to us several times about where she was going, what she was doing and who she was going with. Trust and freedom are not a right - they are earned and she proved she was not mature or responsible enough to be trusted and as her parents, it's our responsibility to make sure she doesn't end up drunk, pregnant, with an STD or dead. That takes priority over her freedom.
Over time, we gradually give her more and more freedom as she demonstrates that she can be trusted again.
So without accusing either you or your mom of being right or wrong, perhaps you should have a calm, non-defensive lunch with her sometime and discuss ways that you can demonstrate to her that you're trustworthy in exchange for more freedom. Remember not to argue or raise your voice with her - that will accomplish nothing productive...
2007-03-11 15:11:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, just delete your Myspace. Although your lucky, my mom wouldn't even "dream" of letting me have a myspace. She's convinced from all those stupid 20/20 specials that only perverts are on myspace. Also, she won't even let me sleepover at my close friend's house for her birthday! Sometimes it irritates me how overprotective parents can be, don't they realize that anything can happen wherever you are in the world? I mean, why don't we all lock ourselves in our rooms in our houses to "protect" ourselves from all those scary people out there!!!
2007-03-12 13:49:10 · answer #4 · answered by Columbiagirl08 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be happy that you have a mother who worries and cares so much about your well being. The only reason that she is over protective is that she is concerned that you are on myspace.com and she knows that there are predators out there just dying to find a young vonerable young teenage girl. Someday when you marry and have children and when they are teenagers, you will finally understand why your mother was so overprotective and worried about you. Be happy that you have a good home, and a loving and caring mother.
2007-03-11 21:06:11 · answer #5 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom loves you. I love my kids more. I make all of their friends give me access to their myspace as well as my own kids. How's that for caring. Life is too dangerous for us to just let you play around on your own. The scary thing is that by the time you are a parent and get it the dangers of this world will have advanced even more. Until then lighten up on your mom. I personally think she is right.
2007-03-11 15:11:33 · answer #6 · answered by NakasEvilTwin 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Now a day parents have to do all this. and only you know why you feel you must delete your "my space" information. Apparently you gave your mom the impression that you couldn't be trusted.
Your day will come when you will be doing the same thing to your child.
2007-03-11 23:50:42 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. Angel.. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only go on the computer when she isn't around. My mama be all up in my business too. Your mother prolly just want you to be careful. My grandmother got mad when my lil' brother went on Myspace and she stays all the way in Memphis, TN.
2007-03-11 15:29:56 · answer #8 · answered by Chrishonda Alston 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My Mum was REALLY Protective of me as well....When I was a teenager it made me really angry and I hated that she always wanted to know what was going on....She was always there, I couldn't go out without giving her a phone number to my friends houses...and she WOULD call!!
How I solved this, was just by talking to her ALL the time...I told her everything that was happening in my life, then she had no need to snoop as we had a complete honest relationship....
Now as I'm in my 20s and have actually met people who's parents didn't protect them or care what was going on in their lives, I truly pity them...It's so sad...
I am so grateful that my Mum was so caring about me...she wanted the best for me in everything, and was looking out for me in ways i couldn't as a teenager...
Your Mum Loves you SO Much and truly cares for you and wants only good things to happen to you...She's trying to look out for you...
I promise that when you get into your 20s you will be grateful for your Mother and for her looking out for you....Enjoy her company and Enjoy Her....
Talking to her all the time is the best thing you can do..and always be HONEST!!
EDIT:CCRIDER has got it RIGHT!! Restrictions come from being dishonest....Honesty is the only key in having any healthy relationship...Family or otherwise...
2007-03-11 15:26:40 · answer #9 · answered by January00 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How horrible for you to have a mother who cares about you and actually monitors your online activities.
Considering the reputation of myspace I think she is a wise woman who loves her children.
2007-03-11 15:46:34 · answer #10 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋