How can you deal with your aunt when.....?

Question

She has menopause
And you live with her
A fight comes around each month... emotional fights....
If i dont express emotions, she will just continue to nagg and non - stop lecture (mostly about my school grades)
If i do express emotions, then take COVER!!! She's gonna blow !!!!!
Can I end this? IF NOT, what are someways YOU can think of that may be helpful to this situation???

Answer 1

If you are living with your aunt, that generally means there is trouble at home and therefore you can't live there. It can also mean that you have a better chance at a better education if you live with your aunt to be in a different school district. So either way, I am afraid, you are the one who needs to toe the line. You are being given a gift that not all can receive.

Your general tone to me is one of disrespect because of your aunts' state of mind.

It could be, she needs more friendly interaction with you. When we are children we can behave badly just to receive attention. That goes both ways. Sounds like she needs a thank you from you once in a while for the things she does for you.

Take a little time with her, go on walks (helps the menopause thing) Ask her if she needs anything at the store.

She wouldn't nag about grades if she wasn't concerned about your future.

Hope some of this helps, good luck.

Answer 2

What if you just act agreeable about most of what she says? Also, on those days when you see these outbursts coming, buckle down and study extra hard; build your notebooks up, have books open, work on problems and write (don't read when she's irritated - she may want to interrupt you - take notes, instead). Just open a book for a class and start summarizing, making an outline. You can use it later when it is time for exams, to study from. In the meantime, you can just say to her, 'I have so much studying to do' and maybe she will leave you alone.
You will have avoided the emotional argument. She's right to want you to imporve your school grades but she can't lecture you about it while you are obviously concentrating on it!
This strategy is to avoid the emotional argument by being too busy for one. If you want to do that and you don't like to study and work on improving your grades, then you do have a problem. The best future you have being independent and away from your aunt comes from learning as much as you can now so you can progress further in your education. She wants you to be indendent and self-sufficient (successful) some day - that is a good thing.

Answer 3

Tell her you are not going to be her verbal punching bag. She can control this behavior but she found someone who lacks the mature experience to set limits, no-one has the right to emotionally abuse you, she will not stop on her own. You can move out of that house. She thinks the label of menopause will allow her to be a tyrnat and force you to hide YOUR EMOTIONS?? You are the one who should be dealing with your feelings at this time, and not being afraid to express them. This person will continue to bring you down, she feels she is better than you, right? more important than you. Part of it could be she is insecure and jealous of your youth, she has no respect others, so please go get a life.

Answer 4

try talking with her when she isnt at that time.. menopause is hard.... when she nags you about your grades just say you are sorry and you will try harder but dont be patronizing about it...be helpful and if it helps stay out of her way if you can, spend more time in your room doing homework... she may blow up at that during that time... but try to be understanding and not take it personal.. ♥

Answer 5

going through the menopause is a tough time for women, it can be even tougher for those around them.have a word with your parents tell them how you feel if they wont listen have a word with your teacher. explain how her nagging is getting you down.it will affect your grades if it is allowed to continue.

Answer 6

Try asking her to sit down and talk. Let her know that you are your own person and that you don't appreciate the constant lecturing. If that doesn't work, then you might be out of luck. :-\

Answer 7

Do you know about what time of the month or day her menopause start acting up?

Answer 8

Record her when she is having an episode. Replay it back to her when she is in her normal state of mind. Tell her this is what she sounds like to you all when this is occurring

Answer 9

Maybe she needs to be on medication. How old are you? Can't you move out?