I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years. And today he said it was over and that he'd be back in a couple of days. We live together and have two little girls. I've been calling him since he left (about 20 minutes ago). I am so sad, I don't know what to do. We had a fight yesterday over some jealousy issues and he left for five hours and came back, I didn't get mad we ate dinner and were fine. Then this morning, I asked him where exactly he went yesterday and he got all mad and started getting dressed then he said "I love you but i can't live like this" and he said he was going to a hotel and he'd come back in a few days. Do you think he's serious?
I don't know what to do, I feel so alone and I can't even go anywhere cause I have to stay here with my daughters. I feel like moving to canada and not looking back...please help me.... ;(
2007-03-11 07:59:33 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unless you can figure out what hotel he's at you can't do much. I wish there was more to say here but you're just going to have to wait untill he comes back or contacts you and sort it out then.
Best of Luck to you!
2007-03-11 08:05:28 · answer #1 · answered by The Flying Porcupine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you are experiencing this at the moment. Give him some time alone. Perhaps he's dealing with something more then he's telling you and need to work it out on his own. The best thing you can do is focus on your girls. Children are very observant and you don't want them to feel that they have done something wrong and that's why daddy went away. Just give him time. I know it's hard to do and you are hurt right now, but this is probably the best thing for you both right now is time apart to think things over. Tomorrow is another day and maybe tomorrow he will come around and talk to you. If he doesn't just keep your distant. Since he wants to be alone by going to a hotel then let him be. He will eventually come back and talk to you when he is ready to do so. Hang in there and good luck.
2007-03-11 08:08:50 · answer #2 · answered by Denese 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things don't sound good, sister. An argument over jealousy issues means there's been trouble brewing for some time. Who is the jealous party here? Let me guess. Are your reasons founded? I am highly suspicious that he copped out and escaped to a hotel[or wherever] rather than civiling resolving the problem. He has no right to leave you wondering and hanging in emotional limbo. He knows you will take care of your daughters, and I think he is behaving like a total jerk, If you decide you can't live together, it has to be worked out. He's wasting time and money staying in hotels...money you will need in making a move to Canada, which is looking better all the time, right? Concentrate on your daughters; they are probably picking up on your stress, even with your best efforts. Don't lose sight of yourself in this drama. You can make it, without him, certainly don't deserve to live out your life with a man who books it to a hotel{I'm not buyin it} when the going gets a little rough.
2007-03-11 08:13:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I know 6 years is a rather long time to be with someone and then not have them anymore. First, you need to gain your strength for your girls. You have to pull it together. In my opinion (Just an opinion Becca I don't know you two), he is using your fight as an excuse to lave you. He said he can't live like this anymore??? Like what?? Are you the jealous type? That can be very frustrating, but if you have been together for 6 years it seems as though you should have much better communication then him running off every time you suggest you talk. I am not saying he is up to something, but keep your guards up honey. It could just be that there maybe another party involved. I can't seem to understand his bizarre behavior. I wish you well, and remember, hold it together for your children.
2007-03-11 08:48:39 · answer #4 · answered by ~Secretrose~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he needs a couple of days then give em a couple of days, but don't give him any more than that. You are going to have to talk to him and find out what's wrong. If he won't tell you and just keeps walking out it's time for you to get rid of him. You have 2 little girls to worry about. They don't need to see daddy walk out every couple of days and come back when he feels like it. What does that teach them? Be stong for your self and for your girls.
2007-03-11 08:16:45 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. Kitty knows it all 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your mom's or a friend's house for a couple of days, so you will be gone when he gets back. Next time you talk to him, tell him you're either a family or your not, but you can't be playing mind games when you hhave children to raise.
2007-03-11 08:04:21 · answer #6 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate saying this, but coming from a guy when we say "I'm sorry i can't live life like this," it usually means, "I want to continue my life with someone else." Then again, i could be wrong.
2007-03-11 08:19:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's confused,thinking it could be solved. talk honestly and see where it goes from there.
2007-03-11 08:04:58 · answer #8 · answered by christina p 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋