SOSOSO confusing I need help PLEASE!!!!!!?

Question

Ok, so I go to boarding school. There is a guy who is a couple of years older than me, and I really "like" him. He was acting really close to me recently, like kissing me on the cheek goodbye and hugging me alot, and he gave me flowers and chocolate for my birthday, and alot more that I wont go into, because I only have 678 characters left. I was really happy, BUT his ex girlfriend gave me this warning the other day, that he likes to find out when people fancy him and to pretend that he likes them back so that they sleep with him and then he leaves them. At first I didn't believe her, thought she was jealous or something, but I asked around and alot of stuff kind of fitted into this (some girls leaving school after he had been recently hanging around with them, a girl called Millie who refused to talk about him but told me to stay away from him because "he's twisted", his ex claiming it happened to her). So I was really confused, because he seems a genuinely lovely person

(and really handsome). But it just got even MORE confusing because, literally, I JUST found out that one of my best friends fancies him as well (but she didn't tell me; I found it out from my other best friend). What do I do? PLEASE don't tell me that I should never see him again, because I have inherited clinical psychotic depression and really couldn't cope with that, also I go climbing with him every week which is compulsory so I sit next to him in the van for about an hour there and back. Also, no offence, please don't tell me that god will light my way because I'm not at all religious.

Answer 1

I'd definately stay away if I were you. This guy is trouble. He's obviously a good actor.

Answer 2

That's some problem u got.Well, since you don't want to leave him,you have to be a bit twisted and let your frnd go for him first(warn her first!!).Have a little patience and see what happens to her ,and if whatever you heard from others turns out to be true,then I think u'll freak out of it yourself(it'll be a shock for you though).If he is alright,then u r frnd should never be able to get too close to him and that means you are all clear.

Answer 3

Just dont have sex with him! If you maintain the relationship you have with him, that is-non sexual and see how long he actually hangs round for.
Also if you do suffer from depression why would you consider gettin into something and involved with someone that more than likely will end up hurting you? Sorry but its your decision but you have to consider your health. I suggest a no sex relationship and see how long he'll stick around for that will surely show you the truth.

Answer 4

It sounds confusing, but speaking as a man, he sounds genuine. If you are unsure, be honest with him and say so.
I am a middle aged man with a daughter, and personal experience taught me that the biggest mistake you can make is to rush into a relationship. Good luck!

Answer 5

Of course he "seems" like a genually loving person. That's probably the game he's spitting out to you. But if you wanna just know for sure, just always have your guard up. Meaning, just let him keep doin what he's doin, but don't fall for it. If you sleep w/him, don't put any feelings into it. But if you don't wanna be bothered tell him to leave you alone.

Answer 6

Here this 45 year old woman. Trust the girls. They are telling you to save you the pain and b/s crap they went through. Believe them and remember this as you go through life. Men lie to get you into bed. Aren't you lucky that someone else learned his lesson and offered you the info for free?

Answer 7

It's simple: Don't sleep with him. He is obviously expecting that you will because as you say he is so handsome and all the girls fancy him etc. When you don't sleep with him he will wonder why and if he is at all human and not an arrogant idiot, he will focus on you more...Try it.

Answer 8

If it was just his current girlfriend warning you off I would wonder - BUT there are others who are saying that he is "twisted" so listen. Not everyone can be wrong.

Save yourself a lot of heartache - treat him with indifference. It may make him try harder, but be in control of yourself and realise that what he is trying to do is control you.

Answer 9

Stay away form him! He'll keep trying to impress you and may use marriage, gifts etc to impress you as he proceeds from kissing-hugging-what he wants-break your hearts. Don't let him touch you any longer(your breast and virgina are his targets) ; he dosen't deserve you
--just arousing your hormones and feelings but when you are alone and heartbroken, feelings won't save you.
Have you heard about Herpes-incurable-occurs as blisters in mouth and/or virgina or pennis and can spread through kissing or intercourse. To be fore warned is to be fore armned!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 10

wow. Sometimes peeople arent really what they put out to be, its really easy to pretend like ur something ur not, if u've asked a few gurlsz about him, nd if they all say the same thing, then stay away from him. he's not worth it.

Answer 11

You have to make your own mind up about him tell him that his ex has warned you away,and that you dont just want a one off thing,if he is just going to do that then he isnt worth it and we all learn from our mistakes.