My ex girlfriend has recently got back into contact with me. We split 6 wks ago after going out 9 mths. She ended the relationship as "her feelings had changed". I decided it was pointless trying to convince her to change her mind as she was clear that is what she wanted.
I decided to give her space. She contacted me 1 wk ago. She contacted me on the basis of giving back a dvd of mine. We spoke and we then agreed to meet up.
We met up & had a really nice time. Although we didn't talk about the relationship the attraction was clearly there and she was obviously sad when the evening ended. We agreed that we would "see each other soon".
I went out with her long enough to know the positive signals and whether or not she knew she was doing it she was displaying a definite interest in me.
I am now totally confused!! Even more so by the fact that a friend has told me he has seen her profile, registered 1 wk ago, on a dating website.
What do I do? I want to try and get her back
2007-03-11 07:46:55 · 20 answers · asked by hantsguy1977 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
see what happens..
2007-03-11 07:49:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she see`s you as "THE SAFE BET", you need to be a bit spontaneous with things, within reason of course. If she see`s you as someone she can fall back on then make sure you try to become more adventurous. 9 months isnt a long time in the grand scheme of things so you make sure that for the time being at least, you keep a look out. Simple things like a change of wardrobe etc will have her guessing and maybe draw her interest. More importantly it has to be what you want. Lots of people use dating sites and you should not throw this at her, no harm letting her know you know but dont get mad with her. If you trust her then its worth having another bite at the cherry.
2007-03-11 08:04:26 · answer #2 · answered by carswoody 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-11 13:41:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same old story of let someone go it is a sure fire way for them to want you back.
Dont get involved she is messing with not only your head but your feelings to see if you still have feeling for her and you do come on admit it. Now she know you have you have fed her wanting so she will move off and play then back again bit like cat and mouse.
Dont even think about tracking her chasing her it is what she wants my friend leave her well alone and if she comes sniffing again then sit her down and ask her what is is she really wants from you.
She hurt you once she will do it again but only if you let her you have feeling you know.
2007-03-11 10:07:59 · answer #4 · answered by momof3 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She dumped you, don't go back. When she told you "let's see each other soon" (I hope she said that and not you) you should have said "sounds good" and left it at that. In any event, if she wants to see you, let her contact you....do not chase her. The attraction is there, but if yours is higher then hers, you'll get screwed. Guranteed. Not that I would suggest getting back with her, but she'd have to suggest that to you so there's no confusion. If you're confused, then her intentions are not clear. The point is, if a girl is interested, there is no confusion. Move on. Good luck.
2007-03-11 07:58:53 · answer #5 · answered by BS2NITE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck with that. She dumped you because she decided she didn't want you anymore, messed with your head when you met 6 weeks later, totally ignored talking about the way she treated you and your feelings when she dumped you, and now you think she's sending "signals" while hunting for other men on a dating site. And you want her back... why? I suppose you can keep wasting more time with her and maybe one day beg her to get off the dating site but she'll probably tell you "her feelings had changed" when she mets someone better.
2007-03-11 07:52:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are some people - men and women alike - who cannot be without a partner. Could she be one of them. Her profile has been seen on a dating website and she has been in contact with you.
Only you can decide whethere she fits this category. But it does seem as though she is dipping in the barrel to see what comes up.
2007-03-11 08:07:00 · answer #7 · answered by remember_lizzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say move on from her. If you go back to her its quite possible that she'll only think of you as friends and games will be played. You don't need that. Look at getting out there and dating others. Join a club. Look at a dating website. Hang out with friends.
Good luck
2007-03-11 07:55:56 · answer #8 · answered by karl_2676 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! NO! do no longer go out with him. he's a jerk. especially circumstances men brake up with their lady pal in the past Valintines day or their birthday or anyother trip using fact the guy DOESNT choose to purchase a latest FOR HER!!! have confidence me, I certainly have heard this in the past. and then they're going to attempt to get returned with you later. he's a jerk and he's retaining you on ur feet and thinks he can do despite the fact that he needs and get returned with you, and think of which you will only shop taking him returned. i be attentive to its difficult yet BE stable! do no longer forget approximately what he has completed to you! He only now relized he made a great mistake for leaving you, so only forget approximately approximately him.
2016-11-24 20:37:51 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes probably confused herself>>maybe when u were dating u spent a little too much time together or were too close all teh time>>she probably just needed a little space and then realized that she didnt want to completely cut off from u>>>it could also be that she liked u for who u were when u werent dating but when u were u changed and since u arent going out anymore she likes to spend time with u again>>>>u should probably just talk to her and ask her for yourself
2007-03-11 07:53:40 · answer #10 · answered by Catalyst 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe when she said her feelings have changed she meant she still loved you but as a good friend, someone she gets on with and have lots in common with but the spark of love(lust) no longer remains. Put your profile out there as well. Move on good luck.
2007-03-11 07:51:11 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋