To Tithe or not to tithe?

Question

I am a stay at home(soon to be) Mom.
I became a member of my church about a year ago...My husband is not a member and does not attend as often as i do.
i always give whatever I have in my pocket and sometimes i'll write a check but it's not nearly 10% of his income...
what to do?

WOW thanks for all your great(and fast) answers!
I do a ton of outreach work with one of our missions, and forgot that thats what God had placed on my heart as a way of giving back...i just needed a reminder and got it from ya'll! thanks!

Answer 1

The lord will bless you when you pay tithe, however you must do what you feel is right in your heart I have seen many members who have non member spouses have much contention over this matter as to every one 10% of what you make seems a lot until you find the lord blesses you with much more than you have in the first place gave. However not all the lord gives you back is in the way of financial blessings. Your family and keeping harmony in it is by far the most important thing to the lord. So pay as much as you can with out having conflict with in your marriage. God bless you and keep the faith. Much more important than paying tithing is your unborn child growing up with the knowledge you can give him with the help of your church.

Answer 2

You say you are a stay at home mother soon, If you are not making any money staying home, then you are not required by God to pay any tithes, even though your huband has a job & he is not a Christian, ask him if he minds for you to pay tithes out of his income, This can be very touchcy subject. If your husband is the bread winner, & he is not a Christian, God will not hold you accountable for him not paying tithes, But a True marriage relationship should be a husband & wife coming together & working with each other. I remember a long time ago, when I first got saved in 1970 that a friend of mind & his wife was having financial problems, so I co-signed for them on a car. His wife was very demanding & over zealous in the Lord, My wife & his wife went to one of these traveling evangelists meetings, as myslef & my friend did also, but to me & my friend, something did not add up, so my buddy & I stop going, it was like a 10 day meeting. During one of the nights, I nor my buddy did not go, his wife came home & said God told her to give the evangelists, $100 in a pledge, she told her husband, but he did not respond, then she ask him again & he said to his wife, You said that God told YOU to give the evangelists $100, God has not told me yet, & until he does, then NO. Just ask your husbnd about paying tithes. God will work the situation out, but friend NEVER let these Big TV preachers EVER con you. in my 37 yrs as a Christian, I have seen them all, God gave me enough sense in my first 2 years as a Christian, to see their errors. I do pay my tithes to my storehoue(Church)

Answer 3

The bible doesn´t said that christian are under the mosaic law, in Leviticus 27:30-32; Númbers 18:21, 24. explain the tithing. But after Jesus´dead he finish the Old covenant (ephessians 2:15)(Colossians 2:13-14) that´s why Jehovah Witness do not give tithing, if we have to give tithing means that we are under the old covenat so that means that we reject the sacrifice of Jesus and we must do sacrifice in a temple, keep the Sabbtath, and all the 600 hundred rules that the ancien Israel had, but we are not. so if you can give a contribution what ever no matter, just remember the widow that give only to coins, Jesus said that she gaves every what she had.

Answer 4

If you have no income of your own and your husband will not tithe out of his income. Then the only thing that you can do is what you are doing. I was in the same situation a few years ago when my husband was not attending with me. I went to him and asked him if he would consider tithing out of his income and he would not. I tithed in my time as in doing for the church and others in our church even our community. I also tithed out of B-day money that I received, yard sales that I had. I had a garden and my extra that I sold after canning I tithed out of it. My husband now comes to church with me and not only tithes but is a joyful giver. God is good!!!

Answer 5

discuss it with your husband. He might agree. Just keep in mind that most calculations put tithing as representing about the same as a 20% tax on income. There is a large difference between pretax and post taxation income.
Do you think your church gives the two of you 1/5 of his income's worth of benefit?
It is like asking him to work about one extra day a week for nothing?
If you honestly believe that it does then it maskes sense to think about doing it, if not, then you need a different religion or maybe none.

edit:
please read Don Dutkowskis's link

choose reality.

Answer 6

God does tell us to give 10% of our first fruits and we will be blessed. pray about it first off, and second off tithe if you have the money too because if you don't it says God will put a curse on you and you will be missing out on a blessing if you don't tithe! It also has to come from the heart, god loves a cheerful giver! go to your husband and ask him if he will tithe and if he won't, tithe when you are able. God knows your situation and will have mercy on you because he knows what your dealing with and pray that God will work on your husbands heart! god bless ya girl

Answer 7

This law is not intended for us.

Malachi 3:10 Bring ye the whole tithe into the store-house, that there may be food in My house, and try Me now herewith, saith the LORD of hosts, if I will not open you the windows of heaven, and pour you out a blessing, that there shall be more than sufficiency.


It is for the Israelites.

Malachi 4:4 Remember ye the law of Moses My servant, which I commanded unto him in Horeb for all Israel, even statutes and ordinances.

Answer 8

Christians are not required to pay a tithe, but we do have New Testament examples of free will offerings to support the needy saints. You give what you can, give with your heart and out of love. Not because you feel you have to but because you want to. $1, $200 it does not matter. God sees your heart!

Answer 9

You do better with 90% of your income with God's blessings than 100% of your own. Give what your feel is right. God wants your hear, not your money. But when you open your heart it is easier to open up your wallet. Tithing is the only spiritual obedience that you are not able to fake.

Answer 10

The 10% tithe is actually a misconception. The church you belong to itself must pay 10% to the Vatican per code.

A person must only pay what they want to and can in order to keep that church alive and show support for the community. I'm an atheist, but I don't think that the Church would ever want you to go poor and starve to pay a tithe.

Pay what you can.