Hi im no good with men im 23 and dont get chatted up/asked out. The guys i like are either in relationships or theyre not interested which is then like a kick in the teeth. Im not very confident but i am trying hard with my appearence etc. Its getting to the stage where im like is it ever going to happen
2007-03-11 07:29:37 · 18 answers · asked by joanne100uk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to regain your confidence and stop looking. Trust me when you stop looking he will find you for the moment though go join a club or go out somewhere with your friends and have a good time. Go up to any random person in a pub not becuase you fancy them but just to help gain your confidence back.
2007-03-11 07:33:39 · answer #1 · answered by Gorg.Gal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Work on your self esteem first honey. The outside of a woman is like a paint job on a house. Sure, it looks pretty. But if you go up the stairs and they are rotten and there are termites, most people aren't gonna buy that house.
What a guy wants is a woman that is CONFIDENT. That feels good about herself. That is happy and joyful and excited about life. She does positive things for herself and others. She is proud of who and what she is. She glows. She smiles. She has a sense of humor. She carries herself well so that he is proud to be her man. That is much more important to a guy than how a girl looks, which is shallow and after he looks at you a few times, so what? Men that want a relationship with a woman are looking for a lot more than your hair makeup and outfit.
A girl can have on a tshirt and raggedy shorts and sneakers, your hair in a pony tail, no makeup, and be sweaty after running for 3 miles. And a guy that is into your personality and how you relate to him will think you are the most beautiful creature he's ever seen.
2007-03-11 07:35:37 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. HeartBeat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same exact boat you are in. (High school I was NEVER asked out) No one ever asked me out still. I was wondering if it would ever happen for me. (I was 30 at the time) People always told me it will happen when you least expect it, I thought it was a bunch of bull___.Wanna know something? It's true. About 10 months ago (I was 35 at the time) I met a wonderful man who treats me wonderfully. I dated a jerk between college and now but I didn't want to settle for something I didn't deserve (like the abuse I was in) Now though I am happy as anything and he came around when I least expected it. This is the man for me.
My advice to you is the same that I did. Keep on like you are doing. Go out with group of friends and stuff making yourself available and believe it or not Mr. Wonderful will come along. Don't sell yourself short. It will happen. I promise.
2007-03-11 07:44:37 · answer #3 · answered by moo shell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, men can smell the need !! if you just go out and have fun and show them that you enjoy yourself and do not care,they will come to you. I have abunch of friends and i always thought that they were more beautiful than me,but guess who had all guys? me ? why? because i was friendly,outgoing, smiling and they were beautiful blobs ! I am not sure why we women,diminish ourselves. Everybody beauty is unique. also, what you might be attracte dto,do not necessarily mean that would make you happy. Open your mind for all type of people and also, join clubs or sports or something where you can find people that have something in common with you. that is a better start than going to a disco !
love yourself ! there is nothing sexier !
2007-03-11 07:37:06 · answer #4 · answered by confuse06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy so take my advice with a grain of salt.
If you go to bars/clubs to try to meet guys and you are not beautiful and/or do not shake your booty all over the dance floor, guys are not going to pay much attention to you. Sorry thats just how it is...its a very shallow environment.
However, you need to find your niche in an academic setting or hobby. Meet a guy through your common interests.
2007-03-11 07:34:27 · answer #5 · answered by bruce_eel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The right guy will come. Your still young, so something will happen soon. I wouldnt worry about it . When it happens it happens. Just focus on college or your job, because that time in your life is peak. Normally, people dont get into serious realtionships untill alittle later in their life. It always and will work out. Good Luck
2007-03-11 07:32:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be in a rush, take your time and try to build up your confidence...Is there a guy you are interested in..If so try to get to know him...If you go out looking you wont find one..If you stop then someone will come along when you least expect him too....
2007-03-11 09:54:15 · answer #7 · answered by me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have to make them interested.. Dont go and marry the first guy you meet he will probably not be the one. Make a good first appearence and go to like starbucks.. you might meet a guy there
2007-03-11 07:33:10 · answer #8 · answered by Twizzlers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey
Believe in yourself.
~you take the lead, don't go mad and chat everyo9ne up, take it slowly, start a conversation with someone you don't fancy - like practice, the more you make the first move, the easier it becomes, and mor confident you get, Tell them you just want a chit chat and the you DON'T fancy them, but theough they looked interesting (puts them off guard)..the rest will follow.
2007-03-11 07:35:40 · answer #9 · answered by Pepper 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go out enjoy yourself, you'll get the confidence when your not thinking about it, look at the positive your 23 single so if you do meet someone you can go for it! don't look for it honestly life never gives you what you look for. so have a good time and don't worry.
2007-03-11 07:35:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋