I caught her doing things with boys that are not age-appropriate. She needs to know the truth.
2007-03-11 07:28:26 · 10 answers · asked by Florida Mom 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
You're right you really need to talk to her ASAP. But you also need to look at what she was doing and with who. If they were older than her by more than a year or so you may be dealing with an abuse case that you need legal and counseling help with.
She's a little young to be reading this book herself but I highly recommend you reading it and discussing the information with her. "Girlology: A Girl's Guide to Stuff that Matters" It's written by a pediatrician and a gynecologist based on questions they came upon in their practices as well as what their daughters asked. So it has really detailed information from the medical standpoint of puberty and sex.
But it also has a ton of information and advice on how friendships may change and why people may do things (like the things your DD was doing with the boys).
And it has solid advice on how to choose what's good for you and your body. And on how to back yourself up when you have made those choices.
It's really good. I'm working through the book with my 12 year old right now. I'm also using the information with my 8 year so she'll have some of the age appropriate information early.
2007-03-11 12:00:30 · answer #1 · answered by Critter 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's always important to make sure there is no abuse going on. After that you MUST explain to her how serious just messing around can be. Explain to her that it is a very real possibility that you, as her mom, could get into HUGE trouble and even go to jail because she is messing around with the boys.
Explain to her that it is natural to be curious but it is not ok to act out on her curiosity. Give her a basic explination of sex and ask her if she has any questions or if you left anything out that she wonders about.
Make sure she understands how serious messing around with other kids can be.
Someone mentioned a good book: Girlology. You can introduce that to her in small portions.
2007-03-11 14:22:01 · answer #2 · answered by Erin H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I would contact the parents of the boys that are involved. They all may be experimenting based off of somethign they may have seen on television. The important thing is not to point fingers at the moment. I would sit her down and go over actions with her just to see if she has a clear understanding of what she is doing. It is important that you do not make her feel shameful of what she has done that will ruin her self esteem. If you are unsure of how to speak to her get in to contact with a social worker and perhaps they can help you with a good tactic.
Good luck to you.
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2016-10-01 22:52:47 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what the hell could your 8 yr old daughter be doing that is not "age appropriate".....hugging...kiss on the cheek. How about you wait and let her friends explain it to her when shes about 11 or so..thats what happened to me so when it came time for my mom to have the sex talk (13 yrs old LMAO) I was WAY ahead of her..
2007-03-12 12:44:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Actually you should have started when she was still a toddler, discussing body parts and where people could touch and where they weren't supposed to touch etc. Obviously she is entering puberty, I suggest taking her to the doctor and allowing the doctor to discuss it with her.
2007-03-11 22:40:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well tell her is wrong but tell her in a way that she understands and it would be easier on your part to get it across, and dont froget to get on her level and talk in terms she understands
2007-03-15 06:19:45 · answer #7 · answered by chuy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sit down with her give her the talk after that tell her that she is to young to do that stuff it's wrong and spank her later
2007-03-11 13:36:50 · answer #8 · answered by MiSs MoM 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes she does. don't forget eye contact
2007-03-14 00:28:24 · answer #9 · answered by ritznata 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell it like it is,I thaght my boys young!!
2007-03-15 06:50:38 · answer #10 · answered by swt-bby-gl-69 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋